Do you want someone with you?

[x hannah x]

I'm curious about this because I'm never sure myself.


The last few times I've v*ed, circumstances meant that I was alone at the time and I prefer it that way, I hate the idea of anyone seeing me completely vulnerable like that because it's not how I want people to think of me.


Although I can also remember when I was younger, specifically the night of the fp when I was 7, I had a basin with me and I would v*, go clean it up, and then go wake up my parents to give me a hug. (I would love to be that calm about it now). So even though I was totally capable of handling it myself, I still needed that comfort from my family when now, when v*ing is such a trauma for me - I need my family and friends to keep away.

[hippychick]

I've been thinking about this a lot lately. I don't think I want anyone with me while it's happening and I don't want people in the house to make a fuss of it, but I do want someone around to hug me after it happened.

[punchbuggy]

i voted need to be alone because ireally want andneed my mom but if shes not available i want to be alone.i dont know why its wierd.

[cardinalgirl]

that is so wierd. i was so about to post a poll about this.


i def do NOT like to be alone. i feel as i would die and i would need some reasurrence here and there.


but i know some people who need to be left alone... hopefully my future kids will be like that haha...

[domino2006]

I would be mortified to have anyone with me!

[sp0il3dbrat2]

no way. its one of the things that scares me to death, having someone with me. even my five month old niece wont do. even myself wont do... i cant look at myself in the mirror. it'll just trigger the urge more.

[domino2006]

no way. its one of the things that scares me to death, having someone with me. even my five month old niece wont do. even myself wont do... i cant look at myself in the mirror. it'll just trigger the urge more.

Just curious, what do you think caused that fear in yourself? I am exactly the same. In fact, the actual act of doing it is not as freaky to me as knowing that I did it and someone else might know. Does that make any sense at all? In my case I must have been conditioned that it was something very wrong to do, not just unpleasant. Any thoughts? I feel for you and hope you get some relief being on this site.

[worrygirl]

No way, definitely alone! I don't want anyone close enough to even hear it!![img]smileys/smilies_09.gif[/img]

[longgone]

Well I actually need to be alone but someone must be at home too. I mean alone in the bathroom but not alone at home

[mitch04133]

I have to have someone near me!! The last two times I v*, my dad was at my side rubbing my back while it happened, and now that is what I have to have to let me know I will be ok.

[ginger_saves]

[img]smileys/smilies_10.gif[/img]When I feel really n* and/or am v*-leave me alone!! I close the doors, turn off the lights , and just want to be alone in a room witha brown bag. People around me makes me more nervous, which increases my anixety, therefore increasing my n* and the urge to v* [img]smileys/smilies_09.gif[/img]

[lianaismadchill]

either just my mom with me in the bathroom, or just my dad w/ me in the bathroom, or my friends because they are even more supportive of my fear than my parents are. I honestly believe that if i was v*, having a friend w/ me would help me so much.





Its actually weird, now that i think about it. I sort of just changed my mind. I think i might also want to be alone. i dont know. It sort of depends.Edited by: lianaismadchill

[dolce930]

Definately alone!!!! I cannot even speak when I really feel n*- I tell my boyfriend to just leave me alone. I like to just try and relax, watch tv to tkae my mind off of it and drink tiny sips of gingerale.

[k8eb]

When I was younger I had to have my mom with me if I was v*. There has only been two times that my mom was not there for me. One becuase I was away at a school lock in, and about 4 years ago because we lived a thousand miles apart.


But now I much rather be left alone to try and relax on my own, I don't need someone to ask me if I feel better/worse.

[Kazzia]

I have to have someone with me.


I haven't v* for over 12 years but I just know I couldn't bear to be alone. I've had bad n* attacks recently with supportive friends and squeezing their hand to death makes me feel a lot better! (Probably painful for them though lol).


That said, I hate it when people rush to get a bowl or direct me to a toilet. The fact they are suggesting I'm going to be sick makes me feel worse, so ideally I like to sit with someone sympathetic outside in the fresh air.

[Galadriel]

I need to be alone. It just makes it worse if someone is there and they know I'm sick or see me getting sick, argh! I just need to be alone to deal how I need to deal.

[hope]

I don't like people watching me! ButI definatelywould like a little reasurrence from mom!!

[bellasoul]

I HAVE to have someone with me.

[tcsarah]

I HAVE to be alone when I v* and I can't even stand the thought of somebody hearing me so disguise that too, by flushing the chain or running the tap. If I'm just feeling nauseous I still prefer to be alone.

[breezie]

I'd much rather be alone. For me, v* is something very embarassing..if I don't want to see somebody get sick I certainly don't want anybody seeing me in that condition.