I don't really post much, but do read a lot of the posts here and everyone seems to give great advice and be so supportive...so I kinda just wanted to express my feelings a little and perhaps ask for some advice.
Bottom line...my husband has never been supportive of my emet, never taken an interest in it, never even asked me about it, even when a year ago I was in full blown panic, housebound and had to start meds. He never cared...my support was my sister and I never told anyone else about it for a long time. Well, in the last year, things have improved tremendously with my emet and I actually feel ok talking to close friends about it now. So, last night we were at a friends place, having a great time and the topic of SV comes up, along with V****. So, everyone is telling stories etc. and I decided I could tell them about my phobia, since we may be travelling with them soon and they are both serious drinkers!!! So, I explain it and they seem confused but understanding of it. Well my husband pipes in and says, oh yah, some phobia, I got sick all over myself in a cab next to her and she was fine. Well, he did do this (from drinking) and it happened before I knew what my phobia was...but I was trapped in the car....and afterwards I did freak out and get mad at him for being so dumb as to drink that much. Anyway, he made me look like such a fool and basically told them I was full of it and my phobia was made up. I was very hurt, but did not want to spoil the night.
When we left, the first thing he says when we get outside is how embarassed he is of me, that I tell our friends about this made up phobia and make myself look like a fool. He proceeded to tell me that my phobia is fake and something I use to get attention....he says I have an attention seeking disorder. I am just so sad and hurt and this is just one of the many issues we have. I guess I just wanted to get it out and I apologize for making this so damn long.
Thanks for reading, if you made it this far and I guess I just wondered if anyone else has had to deal with this type of reaction in a partner, or even a friend and how you dealt with it. I know its most likely time for me to move on and not put up with this anymore.....it is just so hard to get over the fact that my husband feels this way about me and says it openly to my face.
Vent done......