I am SO sorry but I NEED to vent!

[mbs730]

Waning--- I am going to be venting here BIG
TIME! And truely I have no idea where to even begin with this!
Well I'm sure many of you by now know how I feel about
my spoiled rotten SIL right? She is a money-grubbing hypocrite, no need
to say anymore and she
has my naive brother wrapped around her little finger
to say the least. She did nothing but cause grief to
my family all because she wanted to have HER wedding
on the day that SHE wanted it and GLADLY had spent
their money!!!! Oh yeah that b* gets EVERYTHING SHE
WANTS!!! Its incredible really. LOL the first time I
met her back in 2001 I knew what she was all about!! I sensed that she
was bad news and boy was I right! Yet my family STILL cuts
her all kinds of slack! Oh yeah and when she was a
teenager she slept around and caught chlamidya (not
sure if that is the correct spelling) and gave it to
my brother. As a result she had developed a massive
fibroid in her uterus and had it taken out in January.
Luckily everything turned out okay but before we knew
what was going to happen, because of the fact that I
know how painful it is not knowing whether or not you
are going to be able to have your own kids or not, I
offered to carry their kids if the worst were to
happen. That being if they werent able to save her
uterus. My brother thanked me but the b* took that
as ME showing off that *I* could carry and she may
never!!!! Well that just made me like her even less!
Here I was offering to make myself uncomfortable and
gain weight for 9 months just in case they were to
never have their own kids. So anyway here is the
scoop. As it turns out
my horrible SIL is 14 weeks pregnant (we just found
out) and she has terrible morning sickness! Honestly I
have a feeling its not as bad as she is making it out
to be since she is the BIGGEST drama queen ever! I was
at my parents with my kids and my mother was on the
phone with her for a while. I mean even though she has
been horrible to my family they still welcome her with
open arms. Okay I admit I am also jealous because when
I was having problems back 2 years ago with the PPD and all my MIL
couldnt care less. She is
okay now, we sorted things out but I needed more support at a time when
no
one basically cared, also my family couldnt give a
damn and basically said I was the one playing it up but my mother is
concerned for my SIL all because
she has morning sickness. So she said to me after
getting off the phone with her that tomorrow we should
visit her and cheer her up!!!! I of course had a
horrified look on my face and immediately blurted out
"if she is sick there is no way I am going there!!"
Then my mother said to me, "this silly phobia of yours
is already coming to a point where its rediculous. You
are a very uncaring person when it comes to others
being sick (which I guess is true to a degree due to my emet), you were
horrible towards your husband when
he was sick the night Stephanie was born (umm that wasnt the only
reason I was horrible towards him, he basically also was unsupportive
about my PPD at the time), you were
horrible towards your brother when he had food
poisoning a few months ago and now you as always are
being just awful about this. I know you dont like
Andrea but she is really down because she is sick and
could use some company. If she v's then I'm sure she
wont do it around you anyway so I cant see what the
problem is" I was just HORRIFIED at that kind of
attitude! I blew up and said "I suppose its okay to
treat me like dirt when I had the PPD 2 years ago but
hey its a nono to not give into poor drama queen
Andrea." Then I called my mother a SUCKER with no
hesitation. She said to me to say whatever I wanted
and I immediately went over to the computer, and went
over to google and typed in emetophobia and left it
there. I told her to click on the links and to get
herself educated once and for all and how sorry I was
to have a mother that is not only a sucker but is also
very uncompassionate and narrow minded.

[Jenneh]

(hugs you) i can tell your extremely angry and i can understand why.


that was bad for ur mum to say that to you, but hopefully she will educate herself and stop being mean to you by saying things lke that!


i dont know wot else i can say...


but im thinking of you


Jen xxxxxxxxx

[party_boi3423]

That is really unfair of your mum. My mum is really understanding, even if she doesnt understand fully. I hope she understands the full picture when she sees the emetophobia search you left her. As for your SIL, she does sound like she is being a bit melodramatic. She sounds like she takes a lot of things the wrong way, or tries to twist what people are saying (aka when she thought you were showing off that you could concieve and she couldnt). It really annoys me when people do that, try to make you sound like the bad guy.


Anyway, i hope things pan out for you and remember you can always vent here!


God bless, Chris

[mbs730]

Chris you hit it on the nose right there!!!!!!! She DOES
twists what others say. In fact she was offended by somone asking her
"how is work" one time!!! Believe that one? Thanks for the supportive
words. You are lucky to have that kind of support. I wish I did.



Miriam

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[terified girl]

Miriam, I am fuming inside for you, I know what its like to have family you can't stand, and you have to try to get along for the others, and then at some point enough is enough and you blow, yup I do understand, and your mom, how horrible for you, I truely hope she realizes what she's done to you by reading what you left her, she's the one person in the world who should be caring and sensitive about this.


I really hope all works out for you

[crazybeautiful]

WHOA! Family drama SUCKS. We have some too, I think every family does. Your sister in law sounds like a really crazy! Your mom doesn't sound too supportive either! It's a good thing you are telling her to become more informed of emet, she should be, you are her daughter!!!


I hope everything works out, you should like you have a good head on your shoulders, this will all work itself out.


Take care.

[hanarky]

EWW a WHAT IN HER UTERUS... EWW REMINDS ME OF A CIENCE FICTION
MOVIE..BLECH!! [img]smileys/smilies_03.gif[/img] Edited by: hanarky

[hanarky]

Oh you DON'T (WHICH U PORBABLY DO) UNDERSTNAD HOW BADLY I
DISLIKE POPLE LIKE YOUR SPOILED SIL... they are like hairress es like paris
hilton and dirty and really evil while their outside image portrays them as
princesses.
why would your bro even go for that type of thing.
I understand how u feel and I dont mind the venting.. its actually better if
you do it..
Your mom will understand once she educates herself on this.. she has to
understand that this is a phobia that a 100 year old is able to have..
I hate narrowminded people.. and people that dimply don't understand
that disliking a family member is also possible..
BE STRONG MIRIAM I KNOW YOU CAN DO IT

[mbs730]

Thanks everyone, I really, really appreciate your
support. This forum is a Godsend as far as I am concerned. She did
phone me tonight and did read some of those links and did apologize.
Big deal, she is going to have to do a lot more than that after what
had happened. A simple apology isnt going to erase this. She has to
SHOW me that she is sorry, words mean nothing. I have had a major
headache tonight and feel n. I'm just soooo mad. Thanks for caring so
much, it does mean a lot. And yeah my SIL is not only a spoiled brat
but she is definitely loco.



Miriam

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[mbs730]

Hanarky, you asked why my brother would go for trash
like that? Well I'll tell you. He is superficial. He only cares about
appearances. He would never in a million years want to even thinking of
dating a girl who is even 1 lbs overweight, has any imperfections on
the outside. He wants a perfect 10! Well he got his perfect 10! LOL He
got more than he had bargained for! Oh and get this one okay... my
parents at one time were really upset with her inflexability about the
wedding and how she spent their money, they without even telling her
had her handwriting analyzed by a hand writing expert (they just sent
her a card that my SIL had written on and had that looked at), the
expert said her handwriting was the same as KARLA HOMOLKA's!!! However
what confuses me more than anything is since my parents know this, why
they still treat her like a princess????? UGGH it makes me sooo MAD!



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[Jenneh]

Miriam..... at least ur mum is trying by apologising yeah?


its more than what my mother does!


Jen xxxxx

[sweetfreak]

I have been learning a few things about my phobia lately. I hope I can help you out a little bit, Miriam. Others may not understand the fear and guilt that you go through because of your emet, and they may never be able to forgive you.


BUT...you need to forgive yourself. You never asked to have this phobia, and sometimes you can't help the things you do. You are HUMAN, and as humans none of us are perfect.


This forgiveness of myself I am working on right now. It's hard to do, and I am not sure if I am ready to do it emotionally, but we all must forgive ourselves. We are not to blame for the way we are, and no one else is either. It just happened because we live in an imperfect world. We can only be who we are, no more, no less.


Forgive yourself, Miriam, and accept and love who you are.


I hope I have given you words that will help.


Peace.

[hanarky]

Miriam, you know what I am worried about DIVORCE..
especially ater that kid is born...sad really..

[mbs730]

Jenneh, I'm sorry to hear this and sweetfreak you are
right, I just wish it didnt exist but dont we all. Hanarky they wont
divorce. She basically poisoned and in her own way hypnotized my
brother and honestly I dont know him anymore. However maybe if
something was able to bring him out of his trance, then yeah but I dont
see it happening. He has already chosen her over his family. I mean a
spouse should be a priority but there is only so far you can take it.



Miriam

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