hi i am really suffering at the moment. my husband is the nicest kindest,most loving man i could ever ask for. we have been together for 16yrs, since we were both 16yrs old! we are married 2yrs and have 2 daughters (2 and 6). my phobia has been around for as long as i can remember, and is very severe. so this wk anyway my husband and i decided we would go to the new bar/resturaunt that has opened in our area recently this sat night. we hardly ever go out (finance, kids!) so this was a treat! anyway, my husband goes for a few pints every mth or so with a buddy of his and was due to go out last wk but buddy's child was ill so they arranged to go on last fri night instead. so off they go have few pints (i dont like it but he needs his time out too!), maybe 4 or 5, the usual. he comes in at around 1am not drunk ( again normal) . gets in beside me and off to sleep, only to wake around 3am, stagger to loo and v*.as most sufferers will know this causes me great distress, i lie in bed tossing,turning,blocking ears, shaking etc. he returns to bed and returns to sleep! while i lie there wide awake shaking, sweating feeling queasy,tossing turning etc. so morning comes(and im still awake!), kids wake and play for while then come in to drag me out for breakfast, (we have policy that we all go for breakfast together at wkends) but im so furious with him, i get up alone and take kids down for breakfast at around 9am. i stomp around trying to distract myself,afraid to eat anything. then at around 11am i sent him a text to say,long text short ,but basically that im very angry....and im not going out tonight and that ive cancelled babysitter!. he gets up not long after this is sent and im afraid to even look at him, after a while he tries to explain that he doesnt know what happened, bad pint maybe. obviously this makes no difference to me, it doesnt change the situation. we spend the rest of the day kinda civil with one another, him joking, me adamant im not going out etc. he buys me roses trying to make it up and although they were beautiful i am still furious with him. it gets to around 5 or 6 o'clock and he thinks maybe he has sweetened me and we can now go out as planned. but ive stated my case, cancelled babysitter and made my decision. we spend rest of night with me in front room and him in bedroom, both watching telly! today is no different, we talk but its not fixing the situation (he is mad at me for not going out last night and i am mad at him for v*!) am i normal please help me as i dont know how to fix this? my phobia is the problem, i know that but how can i not feel this way? i love my husband dearly and cant change what has happened but cant find the words to explain it to him either. please help me sort this out quickly [img]smileys/smilies_16.gif[/img]
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