Originally Posted by
sage
You really don't need to stay away from her. There is no danger in you catching anything from her unless she vomits right beside you, or doesn't wash her hands after going #2. The odds of the first are virtually nil (for a sober adult) and you can make sure you hear water running in the bathroom after the toilet flushes!
Anyway, even if you touch her you can't get it unless you put your hands in your mouth. So...just be extra careful with YOURSELF, and don't try to control her.
If you can't be near her because your anxiety will be too high, despite this knowledge, then you do need to help her to understand your phobia, and that it is nothing personal.
Check out my website for an info article you can print and give to her to read.
Take care!