Gary,


If you have an "excellent psychologist" - are you referring to yourself and your wife? If so, then spend some time with him or her discussing how to best deal with your daughter, rather than sending her. When a child is displaying symptoms of emotional distress, usually it is a result of anxiety in the whole family that's getting channeled her way. Sometimes this family anxiety even goes back a generation (it's in your family of origin). When a parent begins to "focus" on a child, and the child displays problems, believe it or not the parent calms down (cuz they say "ok, there's something wrong with my child") Then the child senses the parent's lessening of anxiety when she has symptoms, and so the cycle continues.


Sorry - you probably have no idea who I am - but I'm doing a Ph.D. in psychology, am a completely recovered emetophobe, and I am a specialist in Family Systems (Bowen) Theory.


I may have been confusing...but the point is that if you and your wife can work on YOURSELVES and your own anxiety level (in general - I'm not talking about a disorder) and you can stop focussing on your child (fussing, worrying, answering her questions), then her symptoms may actually disappear. YOUR WORRY can actually cause her anxiety disorder.


At any rate, talk to your own psychologist about this - he or she may not be familiar with Bowen theory - but even so, he/she'll have other ideas that will help you help your child.


Good luck!