I've been emetophobic for a very long time,I'm guessing since the age of around 4 or 5 years old. I don't tell anyone about it, and it's even difficult for me to write this post confessing to it, but it's gotten so bad of late that I'm desperate and need to tell someone.
Throughout my childhood, I had a horriffic fear of v*,and had full blown panic attacks whenever I felt sick, or thought I did, or when I was in an environment where people were likely to get sick (theme parks,hospitals,etc.)
My panic attacks were always very frightening because they involved n*, and the anxiety over the possibility of another panic attack eventually led to chronic stomach aches, loss of appetite and depression. I was taken to the doctor for my stomach distress as a child and every time , they found nothing physical and labeled it "nerves". For whatever reason, some years weren't as bad as others. I'd have months where I'd feel much better, rarely panicky. I'd eat well, gain weight, feel happy, then like some sort of monster from hell, the feelings would return and ruin my life again.Needless to say, school was utter misery. I attended public school until grade 7 then had to be home schooled. There were times when I could barely leave the house due to the panic. The teen years were rough for me, but then in my 20's I went through the best "remission" ever. I held a steady job, ate heartily, slept well, and felt healthy in general. I did have the occasional panic attack, but nothing unmanageable.
It all fell apart for me around 4 years ago. I went through a family crisis which I won't go into here but which turned my life upside down. I eventually ended up moving far from home with my new husband and having to try and rebuild my life. I'm much better off now on the surface and have more stability, but my health has taken a nosedive and the emetophobia and panic attacks are ravaging me. This past winter/spring has been the worst for me. Almost every time i leave the house, I feel some degree of panic or n* or both. It hits me when I'm indoors sometimes as well. It's gotten so bad that I'm really tired of trying to fight it.Nobody I know is aware of the emet. They know I suffer panic attacks, but not about my specific fear of V*. I have used every mental resource I have to play it cool when it comes to that topic and I think that's what's killing me. Growing up, my mother was very embarrassed of my panic attacks and anxiety and would become very angry and abusive with me if i didn't appear "normal" in public. I've learned over the years to hold every fear in, not let on when I'm panicking, and act as "normal" as possible (though I'm sure I probably don't always succeed).
I have a young child who will be starting school in september and I'm terrified of sending her. My memories of school are awful and I know that just walking her there will trigger attacks. Also, the fear of germs that could cause v*ing preys on my mind quite badly. Everyone tells me what a good mother I am, but they don't know the inner torture I go through just doing the normal "mom stuff'. I work from home, but I know that if i didn't, I could not hold a regular when I'm like this. Looking back, I see that emet and panic have severely limited my life. I could have had so many more experiences, gone so many more places, and enjoyed so many relationships had it not been for this damn thing that dogs me. I have many regrets because of it.
So, here I am talking about it finally to complete strangers but at least folks who understand and have been there. I'm not sure if it will help, but it can't hurt. Thanks for reading.