I have a REALLY important question..

[auggiedoggie12]

Hi, This has nothing to do with Emetophobia but man it is equally important to me. I have been having some serious family problems and I need to know if something is usual.


First of all, please answer honestly for those that write because it is important to me. Secondly for any of you that have anxiety this might be understandable why i need others to justify what i already might or might not feel.....anyway, I'll get to the point. I was just wondering if anyone has had a parent grab the, push them, hit them, or grab them by teh neck. Secondly, is it still abuse if there is not mark left behind, because a lot of the time there is not eveidence that my mom went a little physco, sometimes its sore but that all most of the time. Also, has anyones mom ever said REALLY mean things to them repeatadly? Cause sometimes she says stuff like "She likes it better when i'm not around" and things along those lines, I'm 17 and a senior and this has been happening for about 4 years, physical stuff has been very light I guess you could say alot of grabbing by the neck of the tee-shirta nd slamming against the wall, the biger stuff has only happened recently.


Thanks for your help


Katie

[mystikal star]

It's definitely not right and it shouldn't be happening.NO ONE should lay a hand on your body in that way--especially a parent. If you'd like to talk you can IM me. I havent been hurt physically but I have lots of emotional scars from my mother. I'm also 17. I hope you're okay.

[emms]

Katie~


No, no one should be doing this to you. I do not know where you are located, but if you are in the US, you can call the Boystown National Hotline(1.800.448.3000), and you can talk to them about this. If you are outside of the US, get on a search engine and find a crisis center that you can call to talk about this. Any crisis agency should be able to guide you to the right course of action and lend support!


Please call and talk to someone! You need to have support and guidance!


Mara

[alliecat]

Honey, this is abuse. Verbal and physical. No body should ever do anything like that to anyone, including your mother. You need to get some help, because you don't deserve that at all. If you would like to talk, please e-mail me or IM me on GreenEydGlare on AIM. I hope you're doing okay.


xoxo


Allie

[kmarie]

I agree with everyone..it is abuse and you need to get help so it stops..now...


what your mom is doing to you is beyond wrong and she needs to be stopped.


please dont hesitate to email me ( [email protected] ) if you need to talk.


Kayla

[jazz]

hey katie,
i have had my few share of family problems, but not on this scales. However, i know that the behaviour you're experiencing shouldn't be acceptable. No-one should have to be told that type of stuff, it isn't fair. And as for the physical side of things, thats even more unacceptable.
i agree, my mum has made a few offhand comments to me, some things really hurt, but i would always receive an apology for them, and if an apology isn't what you're getting, then maybe you should seek advice.
Take care
xx
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[sage]

Katie,


Your mom's uncontrolled anger is probably a major contributor to your anxiety disorder. Both you and your mom can reach out for help, as the others have suggested - it's a good idea. Is it possible to talk with your mom at any time when she's not angry? Are there times when she's calm and says she loves you, etc.? Often, abuse goes in cycles with the abusive personcycling back to remorse/guilt and sort of "sucking up" to the one they've abused. If this happens, those are the times to talk about it, and about getting help.

[Jenneh]

wow... yet again u sound just like me..


yet again.. feel free to email me on my addy's in my signature...


yes ur mother is abusing you, because shes not following the simple guidelines of a parent "PROTECT ur children from harm". it took me ages to realise what my mother was doing was wrong, and my dad as well.


she stil doesnt think its wrong now, but the important thing is, i do, and i know i didnt do nething to dserve it, its a problem from within her.


luckily ur 17, u can easily get out the house if not now, in another year or so. as i say, ur in exactly the same situation as me.


wud lke to help[ in ne way i can


Jen xxxxxx