well guys..i dont know where else to turn....
i feel like im about to loose it..if i havent already.
things are SO ahrd right now its not even funny...Im in therapy..have my second appointment on the 12th...but until then i am hav9ing such a hard time.
my relationship with my husband is so much work..its so hard..i love him so much..as he does me..but we are having troubles.
see...because of emet (im afraid to get pregnant) and some sort of pain i have not had actual intercourse with my husband in OVER a year now...we have messed around...but that is dwindling because he gets his hopes up htat we will have sex..and i just cant do it..its not so much emet now..but the pain i have in my vagina when we try..but still..i cant do it..and he doesnt mean to but he puts pressure on me and makes me feel really guilty...so instead of doing that I just avoid contact with him..physically...
he doesnt understand..hes kind and trys to be supportive but o course he doesnt know what im going through. I have finally made an appointmnet to go see a doctor about the pain but im scared to death...i am sure they will tell me i need surgery (um..dont wanna do that..afraid ill eb sick)...or that im dying or have a horrible disease. See..im sure i have cancer..or soemthing horrible..i worry about every ache and pain (and god knows i have a ton of them)....so im scared..but I will go...
then..the toehr night..apparently i called out the name Matt in my sleep..well..johns best friends name is Matt..and he assumed I was having a sexual dream about him..i dunno..id otn remember the dream..it upset him so much he slept in the living room. This hurt me ebcause he just assumes it was about his best friend and that it was sexual. This lead to a long talk..he has massive insecurites. see...hes a big boy..not huge..but not trim..and im skinny..petite...and he has a hard time realizing that i do love him or why i love him. every now and then he "jokes" about me bing with his friend.s there was a chance that id be alone with his friend on new years (my husband works for the ambulance and was on call)..and he kept asking me if hed come home and find us "together"....things like this happen every so ofetn and it really hurts me..i feel like he doesnt trust me (he has NO reason not to I would NEVER cheat on him) or that he doesnt have faith in my love.
SO..its been such a tough few weeks..i end up at home..crying my eyes out..or being a real b**** to my husband..i have even yelled at my poor dog for no reason.
I am an emotional absket case..i want to escape.to go some place warm..with clear blue water..white sand..and palm trees...to relax..unfortunately..i have no money to do so..plus i work (which is a whole other post..work is VERY difficult to deal with but im at work so I dont want to go into details)....so im stuck..in my life..so unhappy.
i would never do anything drastic..like kill myself..i just feel as though i need some serious help. I ahve my therapist..but i have only ahd one session so im not sure about it yet..i have my mom..but I cant really talk about the sex thing to much..ya know...other then that..and my husband..i have NO rael life friends around here...im stuck...talking to my dog and rats...and crying myself to sleep.
i dont think there is much anyone here cna do to help..but just the fact that you are reading this helps...and words of encouragement are welcome..