Can't sleep... Yet again!

[Elphiba]

I have fallen into a terrible sleeping pattern; I find myself up until 4-5-sometimes 6am in the morning and am unable to get up until 3-4 in the afternoon. It started with the fact that I have recently moved in with my partner who has a house mate, and unfortunately the house mate has not taken kindly to me - she comes in all hours of the morning, brings different men in every night, not cleaning up after her messy alcohol and drug induced nights, being s* in the bathroom that is next to our room and not in her own. She has been a bit vindictive in inviting people around and to stay without asking us and doing drugs, the smell of which makes me feel reeeeeally n*. It's sent my anxiety over the roof because it makes me so angry! I find it hard to get to sleep because i end up either getting woken up by the house mate or because I worry about random things like the kitchen not being clean! I am fed up to the back teeth of having a crummy sleeping pattern

Needed to vent...

[thelittlestranger]

Hello, how're you feeling now? I, too, have been having slseep problems for the past few weeks so I kind of know what you're feeling, but to be honest, your reasons for not sleeping are a good one!

What you are going through is horrible. Have you tried talking to your partner about this? Is there a possibilty perhaps you two could live on your own? I could never live with a housemate as such, so I admire you for doing it in the first place. But drug use is not nice to be around (unless you choose to). You don't deserve to be going through that! xx

[Elphiba]

Thanks for replying! Still up at the mo, I had a complete positive attitude that i had a routine set and I would sleep tonight even if I tossed and turned, but inevitably the house mate prevailed so here I am once again. Have tslked to my partner who feels the same way - thing is its a bit of a catch 22 as if we were to say anything the house mate could potentially get worst, and I wouldn't be able to cope, I barely am now. We are moving out in a few months when the lease is up, and we can't really afford to break it so I kinda have to suck it up for now. It is pretty bad, especially as I've not once done drygs or been near a drug scene because i disagree with them and mainly because od my emet, but neither my partner or I do them nor have done them so atleast we are in the same boat in how we feel about that.

It's just so darned hard, had a total crying fit which led to mini panic attack tonight too which has really disheartened me. I feel so lost, and I know it sounds stupid but without the sleep it's driving me barmy. I feel very negative too

[katherines6]

i used to have a cruddy time sleeping too but then i started taking melatonin every night. its really great, and i think you can get it at any old drug store. it takes a little while for it to kick in but it works really well. you should try it!!!

[fixxxer2012]

i take my reglan every night before bed and it usually helps me fall asleep.

[cinque]

Elphiba - I'm guessing you're in the UK and unfortunately we can't buy melatonin here. It's not licensed for sale in the UK. I don't fully understand why! There is Nytol but it's habit-forming. It can be pretty good for short-term use though, but don't get hooked (it's not addictive as such but you can become dependant). You could also try herbal things like Valerian tea.

It really does sound a nightmare situation with your housemate. Are you a student? I feel that the landlord could/should probably do something about this situation. I suppose it depends on what sort of lease you have. But your housemate is not behaving at all appropriately. I am sure with the illegal activity going on she could be evicted. If you are a student then I am sure there will be an Advice Centre at your university who can provide some help with this. You don't have to tell the housemate you're seeking advice. To me it just sounds like an untenable situation and not one you should have to live with. Apologies if you're not a student/British but your circumstances sound like you may be (with the lease coming up in a few months - probs the traditional July 1st ending date for student lets?). xxx

[Elphiba]

Hey guys, thanks for getting back to me and sorry it's been a while!!

Cinque - i do live in the UK but unfortunately not a student. Things have all still been pretty bad but I have tried to be a bit stronger and have more of an optimistic look on life. Of course thoigh, anxiety being up inevitably means feeling n* most of the times and worrying majorly over the boiler giving out, incidentally having to sort it out as the housemate was too busy with, well, have already stated in the post. Do you think citizens advice could help?

[cinque]

Yes I think the Citizens Advice Bureau could help. They would at least be able to advise you of your rights. It sounds like the housemate hasn't settled down at all. How does your boyfriend feel about her behaviour? xxx