I'm so sorry, believe me, I understand. My first therapist told me that this phobia makes me selfish. It was hard to hear. I know this phobia certainly has put limits on my life, as I don't have kids, and emet was just one reason why (I don't particularly like children, so it's not a real bummer for me). However, I have a husband that understands my fear. He has social anxiety which makes him fearful of certain situations and he's described the same feelings of terror and wanting to run away concerning the things he's fearful of. Maybe if your husband can relate somehow to something he's fearful of. He may not have a phobia of anything, but there is certain to be something, even something small that he could relate to the panic, terror, fight or flight feelings we get around sickness. I hope your husband's cousin is ok and that there's nothing contagious to worry about. Let us know!