Re: Cross contamination (sorry to post again!)
It is unlikely he did this, but even if he did I have to admit that I have seen people do this multiple times and they have never been sick. It's definitely not the best practice, but not ultimately dooming either. I would be more worried if he did it with chicken, as thats the "danger" meat when it comes to salmonella. Don't worry! You're probably just anxious. Eating at bbq's is a pretty big feat for an emet!
I also went to a bbq today by the way. It was wonderful! But I caught myself inspecting the meat :P I'm always that weirdo asking for mine literally burnt on the grill!
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