Hi all.
I'm a newcomer to this site, but certainly not a newcomer to this kind of phobia. I'm here to share with you guys my story, and i hope some of you can share with me ways to deal with this problem. First and foremost i'd like to apologize in case i go into too much detail here, as i know some of you may be sensitive to the things i'm about to discuss, so just giving you guys a caution.
Anywhoo, Let me give you guys a brief background of my story:
I'm 26 years old, male, living in England. For the longest time i've had this strange relationship with V'ting (i'm respecting your fears here guys - not going to say the whole word :P).
Firstly, i have no memory of ever v'ing in my life, bar the odd vague memory of having the heaves as a kid. This is a pattern i intend to keep this way. Why? Well i watch what i eat like a hawk, and always have done. To the extent where i was incredibly OCD'ish about hygiene and cleanliness growing up. I became seriously underweight and ended up having to receive psychological help. Back then, i don't think any of the "professionals" i saw recognized my fear as a serious thing, and perhaps their reasoning was "this was just a symptom of some other underlying issue". As a result, i find this entire subject incredibly difficult to talk about, even though i've been receiving psychological help over the years, i've never plucked up the courage to discuss this issue openly, face to face with someone. I feel terribly embarrassed and ashamed because i know my subconscious mind makes it a mountain out of a molehill. And those who have often experienced illness often say the nausea is actually far worse than the act of v'ing itself. And, although i can say they're likely true, i just can't seem to believe it on the level that causes me so much stress.
My earliest memory of ever being physically ill was when i was very young, and, for some reason, my mother was terribly upset about the ordeal, which i gather contributed to my later life fear of being sick. Fortunately for me, i don't really remember the "act" that well, all i do remember is my mother was pretty upset.
Now, with this said, i'm not blaming her for my problem - ultimately it was a conclusion my mind reached on it's own, something i take responsibility for. I don't blame them for the problems i have today.
My problem isn't quite the v itself, rather it's the act of doing it that terrifies me. Whenever i feel even mildly nauseated, i often break out into clamminess, shivers, and ultimately, panic and hysteria. I don't ever quite know what to do with myself and it really, really does terrify me. Witnessing other's V? doesn't bother me. Seeing v? nope, don't care. If it's me v'ing? Well, that's one hell of a poop storm. I really do get so worked up and frightened over the entire ordeal that it not only scares me, but also leaves me so bloody frustrated with myself, too. Sometimes i wonder if it's a fear of "doing it wrong" and going out in Jimi Hendrix style (ie: choking) as I do have a very weak gag reflex - something doctors (endoscopy) and dentists have always complimented me on! - and i guess i fear that maybe, unless i "prompt" myself right, i may die.
In regards to my health, i've always suffered with a pretty sensitive (and weak) stomach that causes me alot of heartburn and upsetting sensations. to couple with this i also believe i suffer with IBS as do most members of my family. All of which, don't exactly help my phobia/issues and in fact, from a early age probably triggered it.
Now i'm older, my fear doesn't have the grasp over me as it did growing up. I tend to take each day as it comes and not think about it. However, if things arn't working quite as they should down there, that's when fear starts to take hold, and i'm back into that old pattern of fear and torment. And if it's a particularly bad spell, i fall back into destructive habits such as obsessively watching what i eat, overdoing cleanliness, etc. Rinse and repeat.
Anyway, i won't bore you guys with any more details. I hope you guys can relate and if so, please share how you manage to cope or if there's anything that could help me (us) overcome this really annoying phobia.
Thanks for any replies .