I'm trying my best to give our children (ages 12 & 8) healthy childhood experiences while battling this. These include having friends to our house and allowing my children to visit their friend's homes (rarely, though). As soon as I set up these play times, I immediately feel panicked and want to cancel them! I obsess about the germs that will be entering our home and about the germs my children will pick up at their friends homes. Is it unreasonable for me to ask these children to wash their hands as soon as they arrive at my house? In addition, is it crazy for me to call just before I take my child to a play date to ask the parent if everyone in their house is healthy (not that I would actually believe them because MY definition of healthy probably isn't the same as THEIR definition!)? My kids don't know of my phobia and I don't want their friends to think I'm nuts, but I'm just trying to protect all of us. Any thoughts or suggestions?