Hi everyone, quick background: had bad emet as a child/teen, lead to an eating disorder (wouldn't eat meat, poultry, shellfish, dairy, rice, anything that contained eggs, anything out the fridge/freezer). Pretty severe and had to have out-patient psychiatric care for it. Anyway by the time I was 18 I had made great progress. I've just finished a three year arts degree in London (moved out my hometown to do it) and I'm 22 tomorrow. I've eaten almost completely normally these past three years.
However, I've had a lot of stress recently (missed my finals at uni due to hospitalization because of heart and kidney problems) though managed to complete my degree, I've obviously lost the structure of uni, lost contact with friends there (though some I have deliberately shunned as they disbelieved how ill I was in hospital though that's a long story), I've had ongoing family issues due to religious differences and cancer, my once supportive boyfriend has turned abusive because of nervous exhaustion, I've got money problems, I'm moving house because I'm dealing with a dodgy landlord, and I'm faced with the prospect of being an unemployed and disillusioned graduate.
So here's where the emet comes in. My fear of v* has subsided but never completely gone away, in that although it doesn't adversely affect my day to day life anymore, any exposure or near exposure to it, either in person, on tv, etc, etc, sends me into complete panic. Hence why I'm on this forum. The eating disorder I had made me feel in control over what I could eat and the chances of getting FP/v*, as, conversely, the biggest fear of v* for me is losing control, of my body that is. Now that I'm going through the most stressful time in three years of my life, I can feel the disorder coming back. Not even gradually - but suddenly. I had learnt to eat whatever I wanted and feel confident that that didn't mean I would be ill necessarily - now all foods feel suspicious again.
I am returning to old habits, all of a sudden. I'm googling 'high risk foods', I have strong feelings of fear in leaving the house, I daren't drink any alcohol, I won't eat anything out my fridge...etc, etc. This has started to happen literally in the past few days and it's terrifying.
I hate to admit this but it's making me feel suicidal. I am overwhelmed by own fear again, when I thought I had made so much progress. I am so scared my life is going to spiral out of control. I feel afraid to talk to anyone because I don't think I will be taken seriously, which exacerbates the extreme emotions of guilt and shame I am feeling.
I don't really know what else to say - it's a complex situation. I'm just desperate for some advice, the more practical the better.
Thank you in advance, Emily xxx