Sorry, new here and haven't had a chance yet to search the site to find if there is relevant topics, but I wanted to get this off my chest while it was still fresh in my mind. Then search about before coming back to it. I've been dating a girl who is suffering from emetophobia..and well, it's been a process. I feel for all of you here, as I see daily what most of you have to go through...what fears surround your everyday life. I try to be as supportive as I can for her, comfort her when anxiety takes over, and flush out all negative thoughts I possibly can in her mind..which all seems to work decently so far. I feel I've made great progress with her, even have desensitized her to v* within most games, making the it still fun to experience playing them. She's truly a strong woman, she's stuck by my side even through my own sickness...even though it throws her world into a spiral and she ends up being the one needing too be tended to haha..but none the less...I love her.
My concerns..though are...closely related to our future. How will this impact my future, loving someone with this fear? Does it ever get better?...Or as I fear...will this eventually lead to agoraphobia as I've read elsewhere? I know she specifically can't be predicted but I'd like to hear from someone..something that maybe can make things seem more promising?...Someone to talk to about it I guess, she hides it from everyone..in fear they'll tease and torment her with their twisted humor in exploiting it. So I feel like I have no one to turn to. I know she tries her hardest to push through this fear...and I feel she does an amazing job at doing so...It's just when we got on the topic of someday having kids, I felt crushed inside. She doesn't want kids...and spent the last 11 hours going into the most intense arguments we've had, explaining why she doesn't want them...and at it's root, it's because of this fear.
She feels there's too much risk involved in v*ing from morning sickness, fear of the baby getting sick in infancy or toddler stages, or at any time period, from this...from that. She's covered it all, but I figure you'd know what I'm talking about..so I'll just sum this up with she's very against having kids...and that is something really important to me......What...do I do?....What else changes?...What all do I have to sacrifice...to love this wonderful woman?...
Please lend me an ear...