Hi Sammy, sorry to hear another person with this horrid phobia!
I do agree with finding another doctor. My doctor didn't think much of it either so I saw another one and they refered me to a well being team, and now I'm having exposure therapy. *Gulps*! They're going to keep trying until they've got me better, which is great and all but being exposed to v* is terrifying! I know I'm going to sound crazy and all, but I'd recommend it as well.
What they do is, they start off with the thing that makes you anxious the least. So in my case that would be talking about v*. They're going to keep talking about it to me until I no longer have any anxiety from it, then work our way up to the most fearful thing for me, which is of course, being s*. I have no idea how they're going to get through that with me but I'm going to try my best if it means getting rid of this horrid phobia forever!
By the way, I also failed my exams in school and stuff because I was suffering from this phobia, so I feel your pain!
Welcome to the forum as well!