Hello: New to the board but not a new emet. Been one for MANY years! I was on another message board but the people there were vicious!! Always attacking and VERY judgemental. Time to leave and move on. When someone has a phobia, it's not right to tell someone that they are wrong or that maybe they should be sympathic to someone who is s and just let them in your house. I don't think they understand the true meaning of phobia. We are not cookie cutters - we are all different and handle it in different ways. Some are better at it than others. Some are more private than others with people.