depressed

[bexcelica]

it seems like ever since i stopped working at the restraunt i spent 6
years at, ive gained weight. everyone says that it doesnt look lik ei
did but i feel fat. i dont know what to do because i have no willpower
when it comes to exersize and cutting out foods. i just feel like such
a fat ass and every time i see someone im always thinking "theyre
looking at me like- she gained so much weight" i mean im 5'10" and
weigh 162, which seems like a lot to me.

i just dont want to turn into a girel that is always saying "am i
fat???" but i really feel fat. like huge. i look in the mirror and i
look at myself and im discusted. am i losing it? how do i lose weight?
its seriously so depresing.

i think it might have somethign to do with modeling. i did it for like
a couple months, and i stopped. the whole time i was doing it i was
liek "god im too fat for this" and i felt like i was constantly
thinking about my weight. now i am again. and i dont know how to stop.
maybe i need someoen to tell me im fat so i do somethign about it.

thanks for listening, please respond.. i need some cheering up. and im not saying this for attention, its really depressing me



becky

[gubba]

You can't be too fat. I weigh 143 and I'm 5'4" and I don't think i'm too fat. I can lose weight by cutting down on fat grams and I can still eat things like ice-cream and chocolate chips...I definitely don't have the eating problems that some emets have talked about. I eat well...but I do make a lot of my own meals. Tacos for example are so cheap to eat out, and I make them at home with lean beef, fat free refried beans...etc.


You aren't fat and be glad that you have some weight on you. it helps fight germs!!!LOL

[kate1966]

WEll if you consider yourself fat...then I am 5ft 2 and weigh 140...so I must be an elephant...I honestly would not consider you fat at all....i think most women think they are fat....i know i do...but my husband always tells me how beautiful he thinks i am......but really you cannot be fat being that tall too....And remember this also....men really don't like bony girls...they like a little meat on their bones That's what I have always been told by men....so that should make you feel better.....you are beautiful no matter your size....feel good...K

[bexcelica]

hahaha i never thought about it that way. but i still feel HUGE. i
appreciate your words, i really do. i guess i probably coule afford to
lose a couple pounds. no offense to anyone here who has an eating
problem... i wish i did. i wish i was afraid to eat food. maybe then i
would be skinny.



and its the stupid media that does this. magazines and tv and
everything puts stupid anorexic girls who are beyond perfect on their
ads and shows and everywhere. i think that if maybe some media used
more normal sized girls, there wouldnt be so many eating disorders. i
think that the media is poisoning to women. they all, including myself,
think that they have to look like these girls that are on tv. we talked
about this in one of my classes and its true - they feed off of girls'
insecurities. it kills me. and now its happening to me.



gubba, i know that you an di are probably about the same weight %, and
im sorry that im saying this because i think if i looked at you, i
wouldnt think you were fat at all. and if i looked at myself from
someone else's eyes, i wouldnt think i was fat. i dont want you to
think that im saying your fat by your weight. cuz im not. im just
kinda worked up about this. and im not going to eat dinner. i cant. i
actually had thoughts about self inflicted v*, which i would neevr do.
but i thoguht about it. thats how fat i feel. to reduce myself to v*

[bexcelica]

thanks kate. my boyfriend always tells me im beautiful the way i am,
but im sure that many of us can relate by saying that no matter what
others tell you, it doesnt change the way you see yourself. am i right?



thanks for your response kate. and no i am not calling you an elephant im sure youre not fat - im just crazy

[kate1966]

You are right...we will always see ourselves as fat I am afraid....but just keep in the back of your mind...that you are beautiful I know you are not calling me an elephant...that's what i call myself most of the time...but in reality i know i am not really fat.....just fluffy as my husband sometimes says......but if we all were so called perfect..it would be a mighty boring world....just like the commercial with all the girls with the same hair color...that freaks me out....K

[bexcelica]

yea i guess you are right. i just wish i looked like those girls. i
know it will never happen. and i dont know why i want it to, but i do.
that commercial is very good thought. it makes you think, and makes you
appreciate yourself for who you are. but i dunno... i cant egt it out
of my head.

[gubba]

I do think that i need to lose a little, but i'm happy and healthy and i suppose that makes me feel o.k. about my weight. i did just eat a low fat pudding snack while I read this and i laughed, but think about it this way...what if you weighed 100 lbs, and were skin and bones and couldn't eat. That is what is happening to some people and that is real scarey. Go eat a salad for dinner and smile!!!


You aren't fat, you are wonderful and all of your words of wisdom that you have posted here have been great for me and others and if that doesn't make you feel good about yourself, it should

[bexcelica]

thanks gubba. see i have no willpower. the whole "not eting dinner"
thing lasted 5 minutes. i just ate a sausage and peppers sandwich. the
whole time i was telling myself that i ws fat, and saying bad things in
my head with every bite. i have NO WILLPOWER. thanks for your
compliments on what i wrote, and i hope it heps others, but i cant get
past it.



thans again gubba

[pianolover]

Hi girls,


I'm sorry you are feeling this way, bexcelica. But believe me, it really is healthier to be a bit overweight than a bit underweight, and I wish I had that problem because it's the opposite of mine! I can't keep weight on, especially since I've been depressed, and I became anemic and I've been feeling a bit faint often. I just usually have no appetite. It's funny how different people deal with stress/food issues differently! I guess the grass is always greener... [img]smileys/smilies_12.gif[/img]

[mommyof3]

Hey. I just calculated your BMI and it's only 23. Under 25 and above 19 is where you want to be. SO, quantitative evidence you are a healthy weight


BTW, have you seen the Dove ads and the interview with one of the ladies in the ad?
They are all normal size women and the one they interviewed was turned down by a modeling agency for more work because they "don't work with plus size models." She's a size 6. [img]smileys/smilies_05.gif[/img]

[bexcelica]

I've been feeling a bit faint often. I just
usually have no appetite. It's funny how different people deal with
stress/food issues differently! I guess the grass is always greener... [img]smileys/smilies_12.gif[/img]

yes i agree, thanks for your response. the thing is i might as well be
underweight because im faint CONSTANTLY because i have low blood
pressure. it was like 80/60 when i had a physical the other day.

but yea, we all do deal differently. and the grass is always greener.

[bexcelica]

Hey. I just calculated your BMI and it's only 23.
Under 25 and above 19 is where you want to be. SO, quantitative
evidence you are a healthy weight


BTW, have you seen the Dove ads and the interview with one of the ladies in the ad?
They
are all normal size women and the one they interviewed was turned down
by a modeling agency for more work because they "don't work with plus
size models." She's a size 6. [img]smileys/smilies_05.gif[/img]

oh my god. i wish iw as a size 6! i cant believe that. thats ridiculous. what do they think real people are like.



yea ive seen those ads and i was actually thinking about them when i
was typing one of the last posts. i love those ads because its REAL.



thanks for calculating that does make me feel a bit better



thanks everyone - youre all so suportive, even when people like me are being silly

[samara's on tv]

I used to be 5'10 110 pounds. Now I'm 5'10 145 pounds. I feel FAT...my sister always makes a point of telling me that I'm not skinny anymore. But I have like No Willpower when it comes to eating. Everyone else says that I'm too skinny, but I'm really not I feel fat. Maybe we could talk...most people would say that I wasn't fat but I am...or at least I feel that way. If you want to talk to me you know my screen name!


~Monica

[bexcelica]

thanks monica.. i wish i weighed 145 ill im you later thanks girl