OK..so heres my problem...
Myhusband (we havent even been married a year) loves doing emergency service type jobs. He is on a voulenteer fire department and is working on getting hims EMT liscence.
WELL..he now wants to go work part time at the local ambulance company as a drive (and then EMT once he gets his liscence...which means he will be on call a couple of nights a week and may be working an overnight shift every couple of weeks..
not a problem right?.... WRONG...night time is horrible for me...not so bad when im with someone ..but if Im alone?? good lord...constant panic..Im scared TO DEATH of being home alone at night time..what if soemthing happens? Idont drive so I cant leave the house if I need to..what if Im sick? or what if i have a medical emergency and cant get to the phone for help?what if someone breaksin?what if there is a fire? it all scares me so bad..i actuallyc ry when I think about it
I can sometimesdeal with him being toned out for fire/first responder calls durring the night....most times i lay awake..worring...panicking..pacing..and crying.
He really really wants to do this...if he could hed do it for his full time job (the pay really really sucks though)...and everytime I say im not sure I can handle being home alone he gets this horridly sad face..and looks so dissapointed.
I feel really selfish...id be much happier if he never went to work for the ambulance (dont get me wrong..its a noble thing to do and we need people to do it..but my husband??)...i explain this to him..tell him im honest..and explain that I would be happier if he didnt do it..but I know its soemthing he really wants so im gonna try really really hard..
and Im going to...but what if I cant deal with being home alone when he works a night shift..or if he gets called out on a transfer for hours on end?
its so hard...its either im happy or hes not..either im happy and hes miserable becuase he cant go do his perfect job..or i say got for it so hes thrilled..but ims tuck at home panicing myself sick..
what do I do guys? I just wish he didnt want to do it...life wouldbe os much easier...i know i have to face my fears..but I dont know how..or if I can yet..what if I say got for it..and then i really really cant deal and he has to stop? it will make him sad..and mad im sure...
I dont want to hold him back..but I dont know..one of us is gonna get the s***ty side of this...
any advice? words of wisdom? ideas on how to deal with being alone?
thanks in advance..i know that was long..but i needed to vent so bad...