Hi I'm new to this website but recently I've needed some help... I went away to college this year and I'm dorming. This worried me at first because I would have to have communal bathrooms and a roommate. My roommate goes out to clubs a lot and drinks. This didn't bother me too much at first but last week she came back at 4:30 and woke me up as she walked in, our sides of the room are divided by a tapestry so I can never see what she's doing, I can only hear noises. (I think this adds to my anxiety though because every noise she makes starts to panic me and I assume she is going to get sick.) Anyway, I heard her bumping around her garbage can and then I distinctly heard her getting sick. I tried to put headphones in and ignore it but I couldn't. I asked her if she was getting sick and she said yes. I then tried to disguise my fear as concern and asked her if she was ok, and she said "I'm fine". Then I couldn't take being trapped in a room with her anymore so I told her I was going for a walk (at 4:30am lol) and left. I went to a work room and slept on an uncomfortable couch for a couple hours and then just messed around on my phone trying to take my mind off of it but I just couldn't. The sound of her getting sick traumatized me. I dreaded going back into that room to get ready for class but eventually I gained enough courage to enter the room. After i quickly got ready I also packed my bags so that after my classes I could immediately go home. I spent the rest of the week at home recovering and then I returned sunday night. I couldn't sleep in that room anymore because even though she wasn't drunk every tossing, turning, breathing, water-drinking noise she makes freaks me out! I have such a hard time getting to sleep and sometimes I even wait for the sunrise so that I can get up early and leave the room. I can only imagine how much anxiety I will have when she starts going back out again and returning late. How can I talk to her about this? I wish she would at least go to the bathroom. She also has a friend who lives on campus and goes out with her so I want to ask her to stay there after a night of drinking when she feels sick. Is that too much to ask? It's just that Ive worked so hard to get where I am now in regards to school and managing my phobia and she is negatively affecting me. I am even considering living somewhere else next semester. What should I say to her and how do I bring it up?