Hey everyone,
I haven't been on this forum in years and years, but tonight I am desperate for help or maybe just a listening ear. I have had emetophobia for as long as I can remember. As a child, I remember whenever someone would get sick around me, I would be traumatized for months, taking panic attacks every night, suffering from depression. It even got so bad so that when I was in high school, a boy got sick in my class (I wasn't in the room at the time because he had said he felt sick and looked like he was going to get sick so I asked the teacher to go to the bathroom to escape) and it was enough to make me leave school altogether and beg my parents to get me a tutor for the remainder of the school year. Over time, occurrences would happen and I would go through the same cycle of panic attacks/depression. The worst part about it, was that during this time, and all throughout my phobia, I've ALWAYS felt sick to my stomach which only compounds the problem. Anyone who knows me, knows that I feel like I'm going to be sick almost every day at one time or another. A few years ago, things started to get a bit better. I was better able to cope with other people being sick (I still couldn't be in the same room or in close proximity but at least I wouldn't stay home when I heard a flu bug was going around or not hang out with anyone for days who had recently had the flu). Being emetophic, I rarely got sick myself, but the last few years I did have a very bad case of food poisoning which was one of the worst experiences of my life. But once it was gone, I didn't get the anxiety and depression like I used to and life went back to normal after a few days of feeling better. I thought I was finally doing okay with the phobia and working towards being over it.
I was wrong.
I am 29 years of age now, and just recently moved all the way from Canada to Edinburgh, Scotland and ever since this move, I feel like I am right back at square one. I haven't had feelings like this since I was a teenager, I'm constantly taking panic attacks, feeling so sick every night that I'm up until 2 or 3 am every night with a face cloth and about 2 gravol inside me. I can't get on the bus without taking an attack and having to get off two stops later thinking I am going to be sick. All I think about when I go anywhere is "what if I get stuck somewhere out in public and get sick". On top of that, it seems that everywhere I walk in this city, someone has gotten sick on the side walk and then I start to panic.
I don't know what to do about this anymore. It has taken over my life. I don't want to be around people. I have someone staying with me this week, visiting from Canada and I just want them to leave because having people around when I feel this way makes me feel ten times more sick than when I'm alone. Its gotten to the point where I don't want to get into a relationship again because I don't think I will ever be able to live with another person, in fear that they may get ill or that I may get ill in front of them. I honestly feel like if this continues, I won't be able to have friends, or have a normal life, or even a normal job.
Has anyone been so bad that they couldn't function anymore but have come out of it? If so, how on earth did you find the way to cope. I've been to numerous therapists when I was younger, and they either wanted to give me medication or they wanted to do exposure therapy. And as soon as I heard what that entailed, I panicked and quit going. I'm so lost and feel so helpless
Sorry for the long post. I feel extremely sick tonight and just needed to write something to take my mind off of the way that I am feeling.