Originally Posted by
thecheesecake17
Pretty sure I've posted something on these lines but I'm curious as to how your SO copes with your stomach problems/emet. I currently have both and am struggling immensely at the moment (I've posted way too many times on here this year already!) And it has come to my attention that it's having a substantial effect on our relationship. I get the feeling that it's affecting us more as my reflux problem worsens, whereas if I had zero stomach problems I wouldn't even make a big deal if someone threw up in front of us....but these days, I am in this cycle;
Wake up - eat - weird stomach - sometimes panic and general anxiety - go to town or Uni together - cuddles and dinner - anxious about my stomach - awkward bedtime cuddles as I become more isolated due to what I feel - sleep.
Whereas it used to look more like wake up - eat - great day together - dinner - more good times - even better times watching TV in bed - sleep.
Today he took me for dinner and I'm still shook up by my n* attack on Friday so I've been eating very abstract portions and didn't dare order a burger or anything sizeable. Instead I sat there with a plate of chips, even the waitress said "is that all ? Are you sure?" And he was there, ready to order me my usual big burger, waffles and coke but I just cannot be a girlfriend at the moment and it leaves me wondering if he's gonna leave me :/ ...I can tell he's patient but I see it in his eyes that he thinks I don't love him, when this fear has become my only dedication. I try and explain...but he continually kept making jokes about "How I can make my girlfriend fall back in love with me"... It made me mad as Ive explained my emet and stomach problems to him for over a year and it's like he still doesn't get it. When he's sick, he is very very cool about the whole thing. He cried when he got noro last year though so when I'm bad, I remind him that what he had once last year, I feel I have almost everyday. Then he gets it...
Sorry guys. Feeling like emet is winning so much these days.
Any insight?