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    Default Emetophobic but want kids

    I've always wanted to be a mother, but I'm emetophobic. I havent thrown up since I was 8 and I'm rarely nauseous, which makes me panic when I do feel sick because I haven't experienced it for so long and don't know what to expect. I have a fear of experiencing morning sickness and I know that most people throw up from pain during labor as well (strangely, I'm more scared of throwing up than the pain).
    I'm not having kids anytime soon, but I don't want this phobia to prevent me from having a family. Does anyone have some experiences to share?

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    Default Re: Emetophobic but want kids

    77% of emets have vomit-free pregnancies. You will too! Let's get started on our babies soon!
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    Default Re: Emetophobic but want kids

    I was always sort of ambivalent about having kids, but my phobia pushed me over the edge into not doing it. Not because of the pregnancy or delivery (I'm sure I could've willed myself into overcoming any morning sickness and handled the delivery with drugs), but because of the terror of having to deal with sick kids. However, I'm sure I'll regret this decision! It might've been nice to have a kid or two. My husband could've gone either way. He's fine with it. I'll never know how I might've felt had I not had this goddamn debilitating phobia. If you want kids, I say go ahead and do it.

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    Default Re: Emetophobic but want kids

    I donít know about the 77% statistic...

    I threw up once during my pregnancy and women on this site recently have run the gamut of experiences (from 100% no nausea to vomiting for weeks) and tbh thatís kinda what itís like when you talk to moms who arenít emet too. I know I talked to my OB about my fears and took meds when some mothers may not have felt like they wanted to do that.

    Regardless, the experience was a teeeny tiny blip in my life that has brought me the most amazing little girl. I was also afraid for years and years (and Iím still afraid when I think about getting pregnant again) but it was beyond worth the fear and anxiety.
    Honestly, I think if you want kids itís probably best to just push your fear to the side until itís actually something you are dealing with. If you arenít there yet in your life there is little point worrying about wheather or not youíll get sick! Maybe you will, maybe you wonít but you wonít know for sure. But itís like that every day really.. we just donít know. And really, no pregnant lady likes it and you can certainly follow all the wisdom for dealing with nausea from all the mohers who have gone before you when the time comes.
    I would NOT let this fear be the only reason you donít have children. I promise that the life you build is worth facing the fear and anxiety.

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    Default Re: Emetophobic but want kids

    If you want children then you should have them. I had two v free pregnancies and two v free labors. Yes my kids got the sv when they were little and yes I caught it a few times but they are adults now and have always been my greatest joy. Iíd do it all over again in a heartbeat even though the 10 day rotavirus that my son had almost did me in. But guess what- I survived. It sucked at the time but now itís a distant memory.

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    Default Re: Emetophobic but want kids

    If you are able to have children go for it. I was totally ready to have kids. I went to treatment for emetophobia and did everything I could to get as better as I could in order to be a great mother and not pass this on to my kids. Having kids was my motivation to overcome this phobia. Unfortunately, 3 years of trying to have children and nothing. The infertility anguish caused me anxiety and awoke my emetophobia and hypochondria in a very very bad way. In a way I have not seen before. The doctor said my husband is sterile and well... sometimes I try hard to immerse myself in the emetophobia just so I remove my pain of infertility and stop wanting to be a mother but it is not working. Sometimes I tell myself "ok cool, u won't deal with sick kids, you won't have to worry about morning sickness, etc... enjoy life, it sounds great"! but... then I cry right after because my desire for kids is stronger than my emetophobia. I worked so hard to get rid of it, but my motivation was wrongly placed. I should have done it for my self, not to be a great mother.

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    Default Re: Emetophobic but want kids

    I am a mom of two small girls (3 and 1) and since having them my emet has gotten severely worse. I'm in a constant state of panic. I no longer want to be around my kids. I dream about running away all the time. I am so ashamed of this feeling and regret that I was not more aware of how bad things could get. I'm not trying to scare you. Just that this can be the most difficult part of parenting for some emets. I love my kids and it's my love for them that keeps me here with them. But I'm not sure for how much longer. Sorry for being a downer here.

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    Default Re: Emetophobic but want kids

    I'm the same as you I want kids in future but I'm terrified my emetophobia will ruin it for me

    The way I try and deal with it is I tell myslf that most women don't V* they just have N* which I could probably deal with because I deal with N* every day anyway. I also tell myself that I could try all the different anti-emetics for morning sickness. Then worst case scenario I tell myself that if I V* theres a chance it could actually cure me. Also I think that if I was really desperate then I could just survive off tiny meals until the second trimester. As for that sickness illness that some people get where they have horendous V* for the whole 9 months then I have no way of dealing with that. That would be my worst nightmare.

    As for people V* in labour I'm certain that it is usually due to gas and air. So I won't be having that.

    My friend recently had a baby she had zero morning sickness and had a back to back labour with no pain relief and zero V*

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    Default Re: Emetophobic but want kids

    I had a baby about 11 years ago. I had a v* free pregnancy, the worst I had was unbelievable heartburn and chicken nuggets tasted like feathers for some reason but that was it. The labor and delivery I did not feel sick through. I did have an epidural but that was because my body wasn't going to be able to handle the pain (that's what the doctor said, I have no idea the truth behind that, I was having no pain before so I don't know). Some hours later, I got to hold my new son and that was that. Kids do get sick and sometimes they get sick a lot, but I don't think that should deter you from having kids if you wish to do so. The positives definitely outweigh the negatives and if it's the morning sickness possibility that is plaguing you, they have medicine for that. There will be discomfort, that I can promise, but it's only for a short while compared to the rest of your life in finally having the family you deserve. Talk with your doctor (if you have one) that is what they are there for. I ask what I deem to be ridiculous questions all of the time to my doctors and while they give me the side-eye sometimes, I can leave there knowing I have as much information that I wanted and it makes it seem better and more adaptable. The choice is truly yours, but don't let something temporary discourage you from what you want. I truly wish you all the best.

 

 

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