Exactly what Littlemoonwolf said. Could not have said it better.

The shadow - I think even non-emets get a bit worried when their stomach feels off or when a parent/child is sick. That is just being a human being. The difference is how you handle that fear - do you panic and curl up in a ball and stop eating for 3 days and refuse to interact with the sick person or do you lean into the feelings, accept them and think rationally.

I am definitely not cured, but when my 13 yo son feels sick I do not run away or call his dad to get him. I sit on the sofa with him, I comfort him, I give him ice packs for his neck and I stroke his hair until he is better. Inside I am panicky, but not to the point where my blood pressure is sky rocketing and I can't breathe. I also do not FREAK THE EFF OUT when my stomach is off, which is sadly a lot more frequent lately (gastritis + COVID is not a good combination). I just focus on the severity of the feeling, breathe, get ice packs and try to work through it.

It is a marathon, not a sprint. But it sounds like you are on the right track, so keep up the good work and hopefully you can stay on here as a calming force versus someone needing help! I think I have crossed over to the that point myself, which I take as a good sign.