OK. LOL prepare for a long one.
My b/f lives in S. Fla, I live in Central Fla and he is from N. Fla. (I promise this will be relevant) So we're doing the long distance thing (which sux but whatever, it's life for now). Anyhow, We had been together and broke up for a while over stupid arguments that just led to "screw this I'm done" (I know I'm a hot head) Anyhow we got back together around Christmas.
In the beginning of Jan. he had to go to NY for a w/e for work. (this too will be relevent).
So, this w/e he came up for Valentine's Day since we won't be together today. Well we had a GREAT time! He FINALLY said he loves me, it was great! So, he leaves and a while later I go online and I was going to leave a sweet comment for him on myspace. Well, I go there and one of his female friends (from N fla who I never met but am told isa great friend to him, more on that later) had previously posted soemthign but now she finally had a pic up so, curious me, I look. Oh and there were pictures! There was one of her and my b/f in NY! The time he was up there! She was kind enough to add the date plus the pic had the date on it. So, I call the b/f on his ride home. "WTF?!" I went thru the whole, was it even a business thing etc. He said yes he was there on business, she called while he was up there (he was there a fri morning-sun afternoon) and having a hard time so he told her if she could get up there they'd hang out when he wasn't working (she was there supposedly sat morning - sun morning. is that even possible, that last minute?). OK, so why not tell me? He says he thought I'd flip! Well damn straight I"m flipping now! I admit I would not have been thriled then but now I'm wondering what the big secret was if it's so damn innocent! He gave me the ex wife story too how she was very untrusting and he'd not tell her innocent things cuz she'd freak. I'm NOT his ex tho! DUH!
Anyhow, let me add he and this girl were friends for a long time, dated for a bit (broke up when she found herself interested in someone else, yeah great) and are friends still. They broke up over 3 yrs ago.
Now, here's my issue (or one of them lol). What do I do? I really don't think anything improper happened. Actually had I known about it when it happened I wouldn't have thought that at all the truth is there is some doubt in my mind but I'm 90% sure nothing did. It's not so much she went it's that he withheld it from me ya know?
So, this all happened Sunday evening. We talked then and we talked last night and he really wants to work thru this. Me, not so sure. I mean I do because I want to be w/ him, if it werent' for this there would be no question in my mind. But at the same time I'm havign real trouble w/ this. I know it's only been a day and a half since it happened but I really have issues w/ her now and its his friends. He's willing to put their friendship on hold (well, just keep a distance) until we work thru everyhting but what if we never do? I mean she lives in N fla which is where his family is. He will be up there and even if he tells me he isn't hanging out w/ her how will I know that?! He admits it was wrong to keep it from me, admits he'd have issues had the tables been turned, has apologized alot. I mean he really is trying to make things OK but I'm afraid they never will be. It's still so fresh.
So what I'm asking is what would you do? What should I do? Have you ever been in a similar position? How'd it work out? Are we doomed? lol That's more than one question uh? lol I really want honest opinions, no sugar coating lol. I'm so afraid the people I ha
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