UGH!!
I can't seem to catch a break!! I have more damn problems, I swear!! My life seems to resemble a talk show! Well, if you can stand another gripe and plea for advice from me, please read:
[b]I'll try to keep it short ~~ My hubby has a 14-yr-old daughter named Jamie. Jamie lived with her mom not far from us. Her mom is kinda awful--stays out at night w/her bf, lets the kids do what they want so they stay out of her way, etc. Well, a few years ago, Jamie came to live w/us. My daughter Brittani is the same age as Jamie. Britt was a popular, honor-roll student in school. Then, Jamie started going to the same school, and I just knew there;d be problems. Jamie would rather not do homework, and slack off. Britt wants to succeed and have a career someday, so she takes school seriously. Well, Jamie started being a real b**ch to Britt in school, so much so that the principal noticed (it was a very small school), and called me into a meeting, and I tore into Jamie because she was messing things up for Britt at school, and literally trying to break up my marriage w/her dad.We gave this girl everything--I was a REAL mother to her, Britt welcomed her as a sister, and we were living comfortable and clean. She didn't go without anything, whereas her mom's house was always filthy, stinky, and never had enough food there. Well, she went back with her mom eventually because she missed her mom. Well, 2 weeks ago, she decided to run away to see her bf. She's 14, and he's 20!!! They have been having sex, and I was lucky enough to get into her MYSPACE page and read her private emails to him. They were completely pornographic!!!!! I mean, stuff that was written has never passed my lips, and I'm 39 yrs-old!!!! Now, I am the one who meeds to take her to the dr. for an internal exam, a rectal exam (yes, exactly what you're thinking, happened), and blood tests for AIDS, STD's and pregnancy. I look at her like she's dirty, and I am repulsed by her, but here's the bad part---neither hubby or his ex (Jamie's mom), bothred to ask ME if I MINDED taking care of her disrespectful ass every day! Hubby works very long days, and I work from home, so I am stuck with her. She was expelled from school and now home schools on the internet. So does Britt (because of missing alot of school due to asthma, to get caught up b/4 high school next year). Well, we have 2 computers, my laptop and Britt's, which was furnished by her school. Well, I can't leave Jamie alone on the computer because she'll sneak and write porn to her bf again, or write other crao to her friends online, so she has to be monitored for 6 hours a day while online. I don't have the time for it, I need my computer for my work, Britt needs hers for school, and I can't expect her to "Babysit" Jamie for hours while she's online. I let Jamie use my computer and monitored her all day for the first week or so, and neglected my own work, which is now piled up!! I can't spend the time needed on this, and my huuby and I are sort of butting heads on this. I can't stop crying, I'm depressed, and hubby is frustrated. I am very upset because this has now become MY responsibility!! The problem started between Jamie and her mom, and now her mom wants us to fix it! Jamie is disrespectful, manipulative, and just a pain to deal with, and I flatly don't want to do this. So, I suggested she have a face-to-face talk w/her mom next weekend, and stay there for a while. Then, if she decides to come back with us permanently, knowing our rules and stuff, then she'll be here voluntarily and not rebel against us. If she doesn't want to live in our "strict" house, then she can stay with her mother.