I have been emet for at least 30 years (Im 41). I was also TERRIFIED of having children. However I went on to have a daughter who is now 14. I spent most of pregnancy ina highly anxious state but was nevers*.I feltn* but not a lot. Idrank ginger tea, ate ginger cookies, dry crackers, toast when I felt bad. I even got amidwife to give me an injection of an anti emet while I was in labour even tho I din't even feel s*. She could have stuck a pin in my bum for all I know!
I am a lone parent and I havehad a fewscary moments when my daughter has been s* (have called my parents in the middle of the night aged 39hysterical)and they have come down to mineto take care of her. I am also manic when she says she feels ill (any kind of ill). She is showing signs of emet herself for which I don't think I can forgive myself.
Even with all this. She is the best best best and I cannot imagine how my life would be without her. Although I still have horrible anxious times and carry anti emets with me everywhere, my life is a million times better since having her. In my early 20's I was practically bedridden with this phobia and although I still take to my bed at the first sign of n*or if there is sv around, I do manage to have a pretty good life. I work full time in a stressful profession which brings me into a lot of contact with childrenand thier families,I holiday abroad (flying)2-3 times a year I have a great (long distance) relationship with boyfreind of 2 years and best of allthe most beautiful, intelligent, witty daughter any mother could hope for.
So to all you who are scared of having children I would say really try and go for it. There are loads of emets with kids who manage. I hope I don't sound as if I don't appreciate how horriblethis phobia is becasue I really really do.In my 20's I would rather have died than had it and even now when I'm having a particulalry bad time, Iam so scared I shake with fear and cry)
But children arenot s* all the time, some very rarely. I can count on one hand the amount of times my daughter has been s* and guess what - I have not got ill!
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