It is no good telling my MIL how she makes me feel as she just says how bad SHE feels and she will squeeze out a few tears and make me feel so guilty that I end up apologising. My husband does sometimes stand up to her now but it is only in the past 5 years that he has been strong enough to do it. Now she waits until he is out of the room or away at work before she has one of her real outbursts. She does exactly the same to her own daughter and waits until her husband is not around as he will not take any of it.