Leaving site for awhile.

[Carolee]

Well my nephew has been sick 3 times...he just got sick again...I live in th esame house as him and was around him all day yesterday he slobbered all over me and gav eme a kiss ( he is 1 ) So now I am terrified...I wrote a post on here yesterday cause I was feeling sick and I was scared...and I got one reply, 3 hours later ( thankyou ontario girl ) I guess I just kinda feel upset that I haven't gotten the support for th elast few posts I have had on here, and although I am not blaming anyone, and am not mad or upset, I just feel as though maybe this site isn't as good for me, becaus enot only did I not get the reassurance I needed, or support, or words of encouragement but I also feel like I have read things on this site that have made me panic more about things I never thought of... I also have a problem with amember on this site that I think causes complete panic and uproar on purpose and do not feel comfortable going to the mods about it ( especially after the bickering post ). And I also feel uncomfortable giving people support on here after the is this site making us worst thread, because now I don't know if I am enabling or not...I just really feel like I need to get away fro awhile and think things through an dsee if not being here makes a difference...if anyone feels sick or is panicing or needs a fried you can all get me on msn at [email protected] or on yahoo at littlemiss_2075 Thank you hopefully this post wont make anyone upset.


Carolee

[shiva]

Reading this post really made me sad. I hope you don't feel singled out for not having the amount of support you deserve lately. I just want to make sure that you know to come use the post anytime you feel that you need support. I think sometimes timing just makes the difference of whether you get many responses or not.


Regardless, good luck with everything. My email is [email protected] if you ever need support. Take care of yourself.

[kel12347]

Carolee, we'll be sorry to see you leave the site. But definitely do what you need to do, and what makes you feel good mentally and emotionally. I'm sorry about your nephew, do you know what is wrong with him? Sometimes kids get sick for almost no reason. Just keep up good handwashing and hygiene (and don't touch your face, unless your hands are clean).


All the best.

[curly wurly]

This post also makes me sad. I did not read your post yesterday. I am sorry it took 3 hours for you to get a reply. I hope your nephew is soon feeling better and that you are o.k. Take care.

[hippychick]

Hey I'm so sad to read this and have sent you a PM, I NEVER meant to make any member feel they could not contact me in a situation, and I didn't think I had since I receive several PM's a day, I'm so sorry if that is the case. The bickering post was addressing a situation, something which has now been dealt with and I thank everyone who has dealt with it. Sometimes people can't be around to support as much as we would like, it's never a personal thing, I do as much as I can. I hope you feel better soon.


xxxxxx

[japa]

Yes, I'm sorry too. Like shiva said, sometimes it can be a timing issue too. For example I haven't been online since early Saturday.


But if you feel that you need a break, then do what is best for you. At least you know that this place is still here if you do want to come to it.

[crimgoddess]

Hi Carolee-


In case you come back and read this, I'm sorry that no one was around last night when you needed someone to talk to....if the weather here is any indication of how it is everywhere else, I'm sure that many people were outdoors.


Inevitably, as others mentioned, you have to do what you feel is best for YOU. I know you mentioned that you wanted to look into treatment and to stop this thing from controlling your life- and I wish you the absolute best of luck. If you believe that you can do it and work hard at it- you DEFINITELY will. Be strong [img]smileys/smilies_01.gif[/img]


Good luck with everything, and I hope both you and your nephew feel better.


*amber*

[madisonsmom]

Oh no...dont leave. Unfortunately the weekends are slow here.Or at least that is what I have noticed.


We will miss you! You are a really supportive person and I know you deserve the same in return. No one meant to hurt your feelings... ((((bighugs))))


How are you doing?

[Carolee]

Hi everyone...Thank you so much fo ryour replys...I didn't want to sound like a whiner, or try to get attention on the subject, but I fel very thankful and welcomed by your posts...I am freaking out because my nephew is sick and has been quite a few times...I think i am just goin gto leave the site fo rawhile to see if it helps my phobia at all... Thanks again fo rth eposts

[suze]

Hope you find what you're looking for Carolee. It's ironic that you're now getting so many responses. Don't take it personally - I too have posted in the past and not had a great many replies. It really is a timing thing, nothing personal whatsoever, though I'm sure you know that.


And try not to worry about your nephew being ill, I had both kids ill two weeks ago, but didn't catch anything. Take care and please pop in from time to time and let us know how you are.

[princessmel]

Hi Carolee:


I'm sorry you are going through a bad time right now. I hope u come back soon. I'm sorry I couldn't reply to your post yesterday, but I had no computer on me. Me and hubby were at a resort for his birthday. If you would like to talk, you can e-mail me at [email protected] I will miss your PMs

[purpleteacher]

I am sorry you feel this way, but you have to do what is best for you. This site is really up to what we make it --- it can be a place of support, fun, understanding, and even fear sometimes (graphic posts, etc...). It is really up to the members and the mods to take this site in new directions. You need to decide if this is the place for you right now and understand that the members of this site totally respect your decision. We will miss you if you chose to leave.


I will agree with what others have said about your "lack of replies"... It is a weekend! This site is ALWAYS SLOW on weekends!!! The weather where I am is beautiful and the time changed in the USA this weekend too. Don't forget the time differences between the USA and other countries.


Sometimes people don't know how to respond to posts either - I, for one, just don't always know what to say to help reassure or comfort the person. We are human and not all of us are in the best of "mental places with our emet" when we log on to offer support. Sometimes we just log on to read and think and ponder, but cannot reply. Don't take it personally. I have posted stuff and not had many replies and I know many other members of the site have had the same happen to them too.


Please don't complain about the lack of support here because the lack of support really only exists if you are looking for it. The people on this site are incredible and I am very grateful for every member, including those of I have had *heated discussions* with [img]smileys/smilies_02.gif[/img] We are a family here and each member contributes something different. Take it or leave it - we love you and support you either way.


This site is filled with many people with varying backgrounds and you aren't going to get along with everyone on here either. If you truly believe there is a problem with someone, then you need to address it with that person first and then take it to a modif you cannot get it resolved with the person individually. I'm going to be blunt and say: Be adult about it and give the person you are feeling upset with a chance towork through this with you because it is more than likely a misunderstanding.

[donna1216]

I am also sorry--I didn't see your other post, either. Truly, if you do need support during this tough time, I will be checking here periodically. I do know how you feel, as my kids have v'ed on the weekends (when don't they v*??) and I have had to wait for replies as well!!! If you need us, we really are here for you!

[spilled_milk]

I'm sorry you're leaving..but you need to do what is best for YOU, and if that is what you feel will help you the most, then you go girl! I just hope that you know that we will miss you a ton around here, and hopefully you will be back soon.


I actually didn't see your post..I'm sorry that you've been having such a hard time! I sometimes don't get the response I wish for when I post either, and I took it quite personally at first, until I thought about it a little. I realized that there are so many different time zones on this site that even though I feel that I am posting at a convenient time, the majority of people could be sleeping in their beds at four AM. Also, I've experienced that time when you feel horrible for the person, but just don't know what to write. Anyway, i hope that everything is okay, and if you need to talk to anyone we're here!


<3 Anya--

[violet]

Carolee hun,Im sorry I didnt see your post about your newphew Im so sorry about your situation as well.

I am really going to miss you hun *hugs*

you have my msn and hope to keep incontact with you

xxxx

[crystalmom]

Hi Carolee, I'm sorry that you have decided to go, but I know that sometimes, you need to get away. It's what is right for you, and that is most important.


I never saw your post yesterday either, and I, too, noticed that weekends are very slow around here, and not everyone is available like they are during the week.


I am sorry to hear about your nephew, little guys are so hard b/c you can't help but feel sorry for them, yet you want to get as far away as possible.


On a positive note, if you come back, and for anyone else....my best friend's 14 month old had a horrible case of a sv a couple weeks ago, and although it's yuck, mom's have to do what they have to do. Anyway, point is, my best friend DID NOT get it. Not even a mild version...nothing. You can be in contact and still NOT get it. Remember that. I try to, although, once panic sets in, I'm done for.


Hope all is well, and take care of yourself, and I hope you come back when you can. [img]smileys/smilies_02.gif[/img]


Crystal

[brina85]

im sorry to hear u are leaving i know how u feel cause alot times i post on here and nobody ever answers me at times but hey i understand also that sometimes it can make are phobia worst by some of the stuff that is posted on here but it can also help us as well like when people do write back to your post and u get some good advice but maybe it is a good idea to take some time away[img]smileys/smilies_13.gif[/img]

[Babydoll]

hi carolee, I'm sorry some of us missed your post.. I agree with the slow weekend thing.. I hope you decide to stick around!

[stella9]

Carolee,


I am sorry you have decided to leave the site. You are doing so at I time where you seem to be very vulnerable, which worries me a bit.


I know how it feesl to come to the site with a real problem and not receive a response or comfort. There have been times when I have posted to find the site goes down for several days. Yes, it can make you feel quite "cut-off."


Saturday brought some nice weather, warm temperatures and longer daylight in many parts of the States. For many people, the weekend is the time to grocery shop or tend to other chores such as yardwork. It is also difficult for many people who have the responsibilities of children to take the time to read posts and reply.


By no means should you feel this was a slight against you. Also look at it as this is place for people when they need help. When they don't, they are not here. That is a good thing.


Stella

[Carolee]

everyone i sso sweet...Thank you so much for all you rreplys...I am having a crisis righ tnow ( well an emet crisis, prob irrational ) an dcan't seem to leave yet I have been shaking since last night so scared an dneed this site righ tnow...I am sorry I never meant to sound like awhiner everyone, I feel so grateful for all you rposts.

[crystalmom]

Hi Carolee....what's up??? Yes, emet can be irrational to others who don't know what it's like to be an emet, but remember that regardless, those feelings are real to YOU, so they shouldn't wrong. They suck, but they are real.


Let us know how you are doing. And if you need to share.


Crystal

[angel13]

Aw, don't apologise, Carolee! *hugs* If ever you are worried, or upset about anything, you can PM me anytime, I mean that! You are welcome to add me to your MSN as well, if you like: [email protected]


I'm another one who unfortunately missed your post yesterday. I'm so sorry to hear you're having a rough time over there - how are you doing now? And how is your nephew?

[hethmares]

How are you doing Carolee? Is your nephew better? Please give us an update!


Heth

[marieb73]

I am sorry I didn't see your post. [img]smileys/smilies_06.gif[/img]

Sometimes, it is a time thing, like the others have said.

But other times I think it is that we are all caught up in our own trip about emet. It's a burden, we all know this. It causes us all more pain than can ever be described here or anywhere. Only the emet in question knows just how depressed and how much emotional pain they are in.

I am new here but I still would be sad to see you go, because I don't know of any emets around my area and it is somewhat of a comfort to me to know that at least in cyberspace there are some other people who can somewhat understand what is going on in my head.

So, please, stay. [img]smileys/smilies_01.gif[/img]

[kate1966]

Carolee, i don't really know you that well, but I am not on this site on the weekends at all since i only get on here while i am at work. I am sorry you are having a hard time right now, and hope that you will return here soon. I also hope that you will get support from somewhere for you emet. I think people on here are great, and just hope you will come back to visit soon ok.