Well I actually posted on here recently (About having a rash) as I was wondering whether it was brought on by the stress of my boyfriend cheating on me (for the 2nd time in a year - that i'm aware of!)


We were at a friend of mine's party, and we both ended up chatting to this girl. Anyway I didn't think anything of it when I left the two of them chatting and went to join my friends at the barbeque. (she is SO not his type - he's fussy on appearance and body types etc).


As it turns out, the guy who's party it was had caught my boyfriend in the bathroom with this girl, her with her pants down too.. He went and told two of my best friends who weren't sure whether to tell me or not.. I saw them whispering at the fire but didn't think much of it. Then my boyfriend came over, and then shortlyafter thatthe girl. She asked US BOTH who wanted to come to the bathroom with her, and I said, no thanks i'm fine. But my boyfriend said he would go, so I said ok fine, and held his beer for him. My friends looked at me like: ARE YOU CRAZEEEEEE??? But I was none the wiser so let him go - I could see into the bathroom window from where I was standing in the garden anyway. They said - ok we'll go up there and see whats going on.


I could not believe what unfolded in front of my eyes from there: The bathroom light went on, then off. The curtains got closed. Then 2 people were peeping behind the curtains looking into the garden. Then suddenly I see the window being lifted up and Dale leaning out. (Naturally my first thought was that he was going to be sick out of the window.) But then he proceeded to climb out and down the drainpipe. He was on the 2nd floor so was a story above the ground. I screamed to him to stop but then the pipe broke and he fell to the ground.


To cut a long story short, he got kicked out of the house and is no longer welcome in that crowd of friends (its not the first time he's ruined a night out by being drunk). At first I was just worried about him, and ran outside looking for him in the street. I was so worried that he'd been hurt when he fell from the drainpipe.


I never found him and his phone was just ringing at first, then was turned off. I was gutted, absolutely devastated that he had done it TWICE, at the same party that I was at, with a 'not particularly attractive' stranger. Why couldn't he have taken ME up to the bathroom for a bit of a snog etc? Then he wouldn't have had to jump from the window when my friends called to him at the door.


Naturally all of my friends were trying to convince me to leave him, that I can do better and that I don't deserve to be treated like that etc etc all the cliches and all that.


I spent the night at my friends house, and got a message from him the next morning, saying that he had walked home and was sitting outside the house with his things all packed up. I got him to come pick me up and we just chatted and cried for ages.


The reason we are still together is because I know that he reacts VERY badly to alcohol, esp. spirits. He drinks huge amounts in a short amount of time to feel comfortable and confident enough to socialise. He is VERY insecure and doesn't feel like he fits in anywhere. If i didnt understand this about him, and no what an amazing, sensitive and caring person he is sober, I might not have given him his last chance. But i did. He knows that I told my parents about it all, and feels very ashamed and embarassed. We are going to South Africa to live with my parents for 6 months and I know he won't DARE step out of line. If he does he's on the next flight back to the UK. No more chances, but I still love him to bits and feel so right being with him still.


SORRY THIS IS SO LONG BUT THOUGHT i WOULD ADD A DIFFERENT PERSPECTIVE TO THINGS.


gOOD LUCK WITH YOUR DECISION, YOU WILL KNOW WHAT FEELS RIGHT DEEP DOWN. YOU NEED TO DECIDE WHETHER TO LET YOU HEAD RULE YOUR HEART OR VICE VERSA...[img]smileys/smilies_02.gif[/img]