I'm not married, but have been with my partner for nearly six years, have known him for around twelve years and have been engaged to him for about four years! Anyway here's my take on things...
There are no guarantees with any relationship, but it sounds like you pretty much have an ideal partner there.
I have always questioned my relationships as after the first six-twelve months the fireworks, intense lust feelings kind of disappear somewhat and are overtaken with a more comfortable, less in-your-face love. I hope I make sense there! I always envisaged thatwhen I found my ideal partner, that the way you feel at the beginning of a relationship (full-on, intense, want-to-rip-their-clothes-off-all-the time, and wanting to spend every moment with them) would remain the same for years and years. I just don't think that's the case. The longer you are with somebody for the majority of people the love grows but the lust fades.
I know I want the man I'm with now to be the man I spend the rest of my life with. When all the madly-in-lust feelings disappeared I did question why and was that because I wasn't with the right man, but thinking about it whoever I was with it would follow the same pattern, it's just the progression of love. I know he'll always be there for me, he makes me laugh and makes me feel secure and safe, I trust him more than I have another other person, we hardly ever argue, I still find him really attractive (even though I no longer want to pounce on himas soon ashe walks through the door, lol)... I know what I've gotwith him is as near as dammit and I'm very lucky.
It's sounds like you have a similar thing to what I have and if I were you I'dhold onto this man! If you didn't respect, admire or look to your ex for approval like you do with your current fella, that's a lot missing from a relationship, so no wonder you were able to get over the break-up pretty fast!
Just my pennies worth - hope it helps!
.•:*¨¨*:•.Tracey.•:*¨¨*:•.
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