Mantras to get you through
I'm new here and I've struggled with this phobia for years. It ebbs and flows and I fear v* in others more than myself. One of my biggest fears in becoming a parent has been how I would handle it when my boys would get sick. It happened the first time to both of them last spring when they were not quite 1 and not quite 3. I was a mess. I wanted to do better the next time, so I've been doing a lot of self talk and guided relaxation.
This year, it started with the older one last Wednesday night. I couldn't be there during the v* episodes, but DH was fine with that. I was scared, unable to sleep that whole night, but able to cope. I was even able to clean the sink he v*d in. Now, the little one started last night. No v*, but dry heaves. DH handled it, and I slept through. Progress!
In order to get through it, I've been putting together some mantras to help me. I'm a very practical person in all areas of my life, except for this phobia. I'd like to share my mantras here in case they can help anyone and I'd love some feedback or additions. This is such a terrible phobia and I'm so grateful to have found a place to get help and support.
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It is just a thing that happens. It is an illness. It is not the child. It is not the food. It is not the clothes. It is not the date.
They need you to be strong so they can be strong.
You love them more than you fear it. Focus on them.
If you act like it’s not a big deal, it won’t be a big deal to them. Keep it light. Make them feel good.
Focus on getting it out and getting better.
Try to joke and sympathize.
It’s yucky, but it’s not scary.
Pretend you are someone without this fear. (your doctor, etc.)
Worrying won’t make it not happen. Not worrying won’t make it happen. If it happens, you deal with it.
Keep calm. Carry on.
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