Could You Live With Another Emetophobe?

[m0ndaymay]

As much as I'd love to have a relationship (marriage maybe) with someone who really understands my phobia, I'm not so sure I could live with someone like me lol. I think I want someone who is the opposite... who isn't afraid of vomiting. That way maybe I can learn from them that vomiting isn't the end of the world or the worst thing that could happen to me. If I live with another emetophobe, he'll act as crazy as I do around vomit... so he won't be able to be there for me if I get sick. And I want someone who can keep a level head if it should happen.

What about you? Do you think you'd prefer being with another emetophobe or are you like me, painfully aware of how stupid and insane this phobia is, and don't want another person in the house as "crazy" as that?

[maxwest555]

I'd personally prefer to live with someone who has emet, it would be nice to live with someone who didn't think I was crazy lol.

[CherBirdi]

I'm unsure - for the same reasons as you. On the one hand, I'd know he'd be super careful with hand washing, etc; but if I did feel unwell, he wouldn't be able to help me, and vice versa. I think I'd rather be with a guy who doesn't have this phobia. I think if I was with someone just like me, we'd end up driving each other insane.

[olschesky]

i'm married to non-emet......he's really supportive.....but i wish he was more careful about handwashing and leaving food sit out and then eating it....lol.....i think an emet husband would be easier...lol...

[mightyquinn]

My husband is a non-emet and he's not always understanding but does try most days. Luckly he's pretty good about handwashing and such but I do think an emet husband would be easier and more understanding.

[KaydeeJayde]

No WAY! I could not live with another emetophobe. I need someone who can calm me down and make me see reason, and another emet couldn't do that because they'd be panicking, too.

[wargerbil]

Absolutely not. My husband is sympathetic and understanding, but we balance each other really well and we both freaked about it, the balance would be off. And who would take care of sick kids? I deal with cat barf, his job will be people barf. Why he's ok with people and not cats, I have no idea, but I'll take it!

[stephenie]

I thought about this before cause I thought it'd be nice, but when you really think about it, what happens when oyu feel sick? Its easier to say you're fine over a computer but in real life? They'd. Leave ya high and dry.. and it would just be fueling the fire. Not a good idea.

[hairyfairy]

I wouldn`t mind much, at least they wouldn`t make fun of me. The only problem would be if they were really obsessed, & would keep asking me if I was feeling ok, that would drive me crazy.

[orton99]

I’m with the “No” camp on this one as I think the potential for joint-panicking and so driving each other nuts doesn’t really bear thinking about! And if the kids get ill, what do you do? You can’t both run out of the room…

I’d also find it quite hard to deal with in another way, as I’d feel so bad for her given the added twist of cruelty that this phobia has for women (ie the pregnancy dilemma), although I suppose that could act as a positive spur in that I’d then probably insist that she got help and tried to overcome it as a result.

Finally, I don’t think it’s necessary for your SO to have “been there, done that and got the T-shirt” with all of your life-experiences in order to understand. As long as your communication skills are half-decent while for their part they’ve got at least some grasp on emotional empathy, they should be able to understand how you feel.

[jkl81]

It depends. I have never even really hung out with another emet besides Turbokinectic in real life. He is also practically recovered and just a cool chilled out person to begin with. I'd have to hang out with more emets in real life before I could say yes or no. If I'm half the man I'd like to think I am I would absolutely not turn my back on an emet wife or gf in her hour of need. I may not be able to cuddle her and hold her hair while it was happening but I wouldn't run away either. Also there are different levels of emet. I'm surprised we don't see more threads about stuff like this. I know for a fact at least 2 relationships have started from here, I don't know how good they are as I've done a crappy job of keeping up with the persons in question. As for their identities my lips are sealed. Maybe they'll come and discuss it.

[kaiilyn_23]

I could totally live with an emet on a roommate basis, like that would be really comforting. But personally, I would rather not be married to an emet, being an emet myself. I think it would be a vicious cycle if that makes any sense. But if I was living with someone lets say in my college dorm who suffered from emet, I think that could definitely work out for a certain amount of time.

[fibigrey]

NO. My husband is my savior. He knows how I am, and he is more than willing to do what it takes to help me with this. When my children are sick, as long as he is home he is right there helping. He even had oral surgery under partial sedation, and was REALLY messed up..like, REALLY.. He was going to get sick and warned me to leave the room before he even told the dentist.. he ended up getting sick all over himself because he was too busy telling me to get out lol.. I loved him for that. you don't even understand how much. He knows how deep my fear is and tries to understand it.. he DOES get annoyed with me sometimes over how neurotic i can get over it, but he really tries his best. If I was with someone who was just as scared as me, with children, we'd be screwed..

I remember one time I was sick, and sitting in the bathroom with the door open, he was standing outside the door eating a TWINKIE.. Just fine and dandy.. Another time my son got sick and we were eating mexican.. He put down his food, cleaned it up, and sat back down to eat.. LIKE, REALLY? I get all wired and spazy and crazy after something like that, and food? HA!

[kristylee86]

Great question.. I'm kinda on both sides really.. .My Husband is not an emet and he is terrible with hand washing etc and will eat anything and everything regardless of use by dates, how long its been out etc... I wish i had the courage he does.

He is supportive of me at times but there are others where (admitadly) i do drive him bonkers with the anxiety/phobia.

Although living with an emet would be good for the above eg hand washing and being germaphobic too etc however, if my emet friend was having an attack in the same house, I'm not sure how supportive i would be able to be without it triggering my own attack...

[pretendworld_]

Nope. While I would love nothing more than to have an understanding partner who can support me and offer kind words when I'm feeling poorly (that should be a given?), I couldn't imagine comforting another emet when they are ill.