Hello lovely people, it's been a while as I've been preoccupied with some troubling family stuff. I hope you're all doing okay, I oftee think of you all and mean to visit but get too busy. I need as much advice as I can get on this as I am struggling with everything and can't seem to find happiness myself but my 14 year old son Jack is constantly sad. He hs always been sensitive but recent turmoil in the family has sent him into a tail spin.. His Nana (my Mum and best friend was diagnosed with parkinsons late last year and it's progressing vey quickly then in Jan. this yeat, his cousin confidef in him thatt she was being intrfered with by husbands uncle. Sh e swore him to secrecy and he w kept the secret until just last week. He is miserable, spends alot of time crying. He is also beating himself up for not choosing to break the secret and tell us. He is now required to give a statement and feels afraid he'll get it wrong. Of course we've also got to evaluate our girls (4 and 8) although I'mso safety concious that they're rarely out of my sight. Then, two weeks ago our youngest, Julia, 4, was mauled by a dog at a park. Her back was to th dog so fortunately it was her back and arms that got injured. Her sistet witnessed the attack and ran away because she thought her sister was going to die and she didn't want to watch. For the duration of her hospital stay her older sister barely slept forr fear. Both girls are sleeping in our bed and Jack is blaming himself because he felt he should have fought the dog off, not me. He was sad enough as it was, and then two days ago he got diagnosed with moderate Marfan Syndrome, a connective tissue disorder which has been compromising his breathing and his heart. I've got a broken boy Nd two broken little girls (both girls having nightmares and youngest is wetting again. Jack is constantly crying and does talk to me (and goes regularly to a therapist) but I am concerned that my husband doesn't engage with the boys att all and openly shows disintterest. He is stuggling with peer pressure at school and I'm ansolutely terrified he'll give in and use dugs to fix himself. We're engage in professional help for both him and his sister who has ptsd as a result of the attack, but I'm so distressed right now over all this and just can't believe the mess we're all in. I'd love for his Dad to roll up his sleeves as his buddy and mentor but I just can't figure out a way to engage him or convince him his boy needs him. I am so sad to see the mess we're in and gutted I am so lost as to how to help. Has anyone got advice or experience in this matter? Thanks for taking the time to read this, and apologies for it's novel-like appearance. Donna. Xx