What is strange is that we are all really close friends. I introduced the couple about 5 years ago. They totally know about my anxieties and I totally know all about her hubby's eating disorder. We talk openly about all of it. (yes, the hubby is getting professional help for his problem) I don't know why I have a problem about saying something about what is left on the toilet because we are all so close.

I think it just baffles me that they don't seem to see it. They know about my problem and know I use the bathroom, I assume that certainly if they did see it, they would do something about it for me.

It's hard I guess because I don't want to embarass anyone or make her feel like she doesn't keep a nice home. Does that make sense? I know that other people's priorities are not the same as mine and I realize that some people just somehow manage to not see this stuff, or it's so common for them that they don't think about it.

I think next time I'm there I am just going to jokingly say something to Mike about how next time he tosses his cookies that he should clean it up better before his emet buddy comes over.

The thing I am most confused over is that I have a problem telling them because like I said above, we are all very open with one another. I just don't want to be rude. I just can't imagine not seeing it or not caring, you know? I wish I could not care about it.