Hi there!
I think everyone on these forums is suffering in one way or another, and it's also to varying degrees. Some fear v*ing more than others do, some just fear others doing it or only themselves doing it. I think that they post messages about how they v*ed and handled it to let us all know that it was all okay, and they're okay. To let us all know that it really isn't the end of the world and there are worse things than v*ing.
No one here is alone in this awful phobia, and just because some can handle v*ing doesn't mean we all are okay with it. I myself would rather die than v*--I don't even remember the last time I did it. I don't think for one moment if it happened to me I'd be fine. I am utterly terrified of myself doing it and also others around me.
It is, however, inspiring to hear other emets share how they v*ed and they survived and they lived to tell about it. When they say it really wasn't that bad it makes me think (if only for a moment!) that maybe I'd be okay too. It gives me hope when I feel completely hopeless.
So please know that you are not alone at all!! I'm right there with you!
Take care!