Quote Originally Posted by Babydoll


Im 24 right now, and Im starting to get scared that I'll never want kids. I have the whole motherly, nuturing attitude, but I dont know If I ever want kids. Not because of emet, but because I just feel like when you have a kid, he or she becomes your entire world and I dont want to give up everything else for that at this point.


I have some friends who have kids and thats all they talk about. They dont talk about their jobs, or they're love life, or what they did over the weekend, ous coversations always revolve around " oh, look. the baby burped." or " oh look, he just farted, isnt that cute?"... I love them to death, but I dont want my whole life to revolve around a baby. Maybe I will one day, and I hope so. I think right now, Im basically too selfish to think of anyone else but me at this time in my life.


is that horrible? god, I feel like such a bad person!!


Man, I SO hear you.


I am 25, and my partner and I set our wedding date as the first weekend of August, 2008. He actually wants kids now, but I want to wait until we are at least married, and I am working so I will be able to take paid mat. leave (I am in grad school now).


I DO want kids......but have also seen some of my friends who were formerly chill, interesting people turn into picture-wielding-bigarse-stroller-heaving-baby-talking-freak s. This is not to say that EVERY woman who has children ends up as a strange stepford-like individual who is incapable of having a conversation not about their children- but damn, it can be frustrating whenone of your friends turn into one! And then you start toinevitablywonder "holy crap, will that be me one day?". I am seriously worried that when I eventually pop out a kid, I will be incapable of saying a complete sentence that does not include the words "diaper", "breastfeeding", and "oh, isn't that cute?".


I am also worried about being able to balance work, my relationship, and being a parent. I really don't have any desire to be a stay at home parent (although kudos to anyone who makes that decision- I only have respect for what you do because believe me, I know it ain't easy)- but I also worry about the kid feeling abandoned. It's weird, because my boyfriend and Iare the complete opposite of what one would expect in terms of gendered parent roles. He is definitely the more nurturing one, and I think that he will be more suited to taking care of a child than I am- he is a nurse and used to work in pediatrics, and when you see him with a baby it just looks natural.


I am great with older children, but have very little patience/interest in babies.....too bad you can't put them in a pod until they are potty trained. [img]smileys/smilies_02.gif[/img]


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