If I could open up a door to another dimension (an empty one) to v* I would. My husband has yet to be closer than a 15 minute drive to me when I'm v* so I'm really weird about doing it around him (we've been together as a couple for 5 years). However, he insists on helping me relax (and therefore being around me) when I feel really n* and it actually works sometimes! So maybe my freaking-out-ness might be changing.