I agree with kellybeth. The main thing is that you have to want to help yourself and be prepared to push yourself into situations that at first will seem scary but, with repeated exposure, they’ll be less so. The unfortunate truth is that there are no magic wands and this won’t go away by itself – you have to make it go away. I’m sorry if that doesn’t sound terribly comforting, but accepting that you need to make it happen is the first step in recovering.

I’m currently compiling a very long thread on my CBT treatment, so rather than repeat myself with anything I’ve said there I’ll just point it out and if you want to go and look at it please do so. It’s the first thread in the Treatments forum, entitled “My CBT Treatment” and I go into as much detail as I possibly can on what I’m doing, why I think it’s starting to work and how I became phobic in the first place. (Make sure you’re sitting down though as some of my posts are a bit long - when I said I wanted to go into as much detail as possible I wasn’t kidding! Seriously though, I’m trying to make it as helpful to anyone else who reads it as I can which means putting in as much as I can.)

I can also strongly recommend a book that I’ve seen even Sage herself start championing recently, The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook by Edmund Bourne. (Not completely sure from skimming through your previous posts whether you’re in the UK or US so I’ll leave you to put the title into your local Amazon yourself rather than give you the wrong link!) His basic idea is that phobias arise from a variety of causes and that you therefore attack them in a variety of ways, such as CBT but also things like improving your self-esteem, countering negative thoughts, relaxation, getting enough sleep, eating the right foods and regular exercise.

Funnily enough you already (by previous posts) seem to be viewing both the causes of the phobia and possible solutions in a similar, holistic way so it should be right up your street! Good luck and if you’ve got any questions please feel free to PM me.