Re: How do I help boyfriend understand phobia? Help please!
I have experienced a little strain, but my boyfriend is really understanding. I do get that it can be really hard for him to deal with me, but it seems like you get that too I've talked to him about my phobia, and he understands to a degree. He realizes that I am scared and tries to help me. He logically knows why I am afraid, but he can't completely understand because he doesn't feel the fear himself. Have you talked to your boyfriend about the extent of your phobia? Communication is really helpful with emet. For instance, my boyfriend and I have a deal that 1. if he is throwing up drunk, he will take it far away from me and 2. if he is sick or throwing up for any reason, he will tell me so I can take proper precautions.
There is definite strain on the relationship at times, I can tell you that much. He gets frustrated when I don't want to go out, or if I have an especially hard or irrational day. I freaked out on his birthday this year and, yes, he was upset. But just like your boyfriend, he got over it (although I definitely felt guilty!). Having a conversation about his limits and your limits really did help us, and we just take it day by day.
Good luck!
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