Nonsensical Anger :(

[OnGossamerWings]

This is so ridiculous I almost didn't post it, but I really need your perspectives because I don't know any other emets out there!

My boyfriend mentioned that he was watching "Bridesmaids" tonight & got so grossed out over the v* scene that he had to fast-forward through it. Any number of us might have just shut it off at that point (myself included). But he said that after he got off the phone with me he was going to keep watching it. I can't fathom why anyone would want to watch anything substandard enough to use v* as an actual plot device. I have written entire movies off because of this.

My boyfriend and I have actually fought about my habit of doing this. He likes to watch comedies, most of which are male-driven and involve at least one graphic scene of someone getting s***. I am not male and can't stand depictions of v*, so I don't see why I should be forced to sit through two hours of dreck like this when it makes me feel so tense! I won't watch anything he really wants to see because I know where it's going to go. Reading the reviews on a site like kids-in-mind usually bears this out. He claims I am being an unsupportive girlfriend because I'm not even bothering to care about the things that he likes.

Anyway, my man knows I have a phobia and he told me that he understood but that the rest of the movie was fine. I got so upset that I started sweating and shaking and my stomach was in knots. It's so unbelievably stupid. It was like I was mad at him for watching the rest of the movie. It's like he's not even allowed to like something with a graphic v* scene in it or else I'll get mad. My head knows this is definitely not a betrayal, but just the phobia doing its best to needle its way into an otherwise happy relationship.

Does anyone else deal with this irrational type of anger at others as a result of being an emet? What triggers your anger? How do you come to terms with it?

[emmalou]

At first I was totally off put by the vomit scene in bridesmaids, but the rest of the movie was so hilarious I'm not surprised your boyfriend wanted to watch the rest of it. I do not tend to get angry with people over my phobia because this is my problem. I'm the abnormal one... I try to see things from a regular person's point of view every time anxiety rears its head and it does help. I suggest you try watching the movie and realize, wow this made me laugh. It won't fix your anger issues related to emet, but it might be a stepping stone.

[stoneskipper]

I agree that Bridesmaids is a REALLY funny movie aside from that scene, and it's definitely worth watching the rest of it. But I kind of understand where you're coming from. I had a long conversation with my friend about this, because she thinks the v* scene is just as hilarious as the rest of the movie. I wouldn't say I was angry at her but a little annoyed in general at all people who think stuff like that is funny, thereby ensuring that it keeps getting put into movies more and more. I know I shouldn't be annoyed or even think something so entitled as "there should be no v* in movies because it scares/bothers me" because other people have different things that bother them, and if all these things were taken out, eventually there would be nothing left.

I discussed the scene with her in detail (I've never actually watched it) and see it boils down to food poisoning and being humiliated in public. As hard as I try, I can't see how this would be humorous to anyone - it seems wrong to me to enjoy someone else's pain/discomfort/embarrassment. But she finds it funny, and she is not a horrible/mean person. Plus I saw this movie in theaters when it first came out, and I left the theater and stood out in the hallway during that part. I couldn't hear the movie but knew exactly when to go back inside just from listening to the volume of the audience's laughter. So I try to just let it go, as much as it baffles me. Clearly I'm the one with the issue, other people see nothing wrong with it.

[sage]

I saw Bridesmaids and had heard that it was really gross, but I didn't find it that bad at all. I thought they were all throwing up everywhere but it was just one woman, maybe two and they were in the bathroom. But honestly, as I wasn't afraid, I absolutely killed myself laughing at that scene. Not the vomiting women but the rest of them were so funny.

When I was phobic I would have totally been upset and wondered the same thing. How can anyone find this funny? But the truth is...it is funny. It's the fear that's the problem, don't forget, not vomiting!

[hairyfairy]

I relly do get angry at all tyhe v scenes in movies & tv programmes, as I feel that most of them are gratuitous & totall unnessary, & inappropriate as well.

[bailey123]

My husband bought this movie because he had heard it was funny, when it got to THAT scene (didn't know it was coming) I switched the film off, refused to watch the rest or let him watch it whilst I was in the house ( would have thrown the damn thing out the window if I could have) I appreciate that this may sound unreasonable but personally I feel that emet is an unreasonable illness. I think my husband forgets how affected I am by such things and although at times I feel like I shouldn't have to (again with the unreasonable!) I have to remind him how this is such a big thing for me..