Having panick attacks.. Going on holiday and really want some advice

[anne865]

Hi guys

I have been scared and have emetophobia since I can remember. I'm 27 now and next weekend I'm going away with my boyfriend we are going to a wedding. My fear is he will get really drunk - I hate being near drunk people and I don't drink
Myself purely because of my emetophobia! Obviously it's just us in the hotel room and I'm worried he will get sick on me during the night or something awful! The wedding starts early and I'm assuming we will be there for 12 hours so that's a lot of drink! I'm considering not going :-( or making an excuse that I feel tired so we can leave before he gets too drunk. But I don't want to spoil it for hkm! Maybe I'm selfish but my fear takes over

Any advice wud be much appreciated guys xxx

[wanted]

Will they be so drunk they could vomit?

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I am 28. I have dealt with the same issue since i was probably 13 or 14. My advice is to be honest. I don't know how long you have been with your boyfriend or if you are ready to share something like that. I have been with my girlfriend for over 2 years now and am just starting to talk to her about my anxiety and the truth is that its brought us closer together and she is really supportive. I never told any other girl that i dated and it always created strain because i would do exactly what you are thinking about doing. I would avoid situations or act uninterested.

To add to it, all of my GF's friends decided they were going to get married over the last year or so. I have been to 5 weddings! I hate sitting in the church during the ceremony but i have realized that i can get up and leave at any time if i feel uncomfortable. That has been the biggest help since telling my GF. She knows I'm not being rude if i want to go outside and we can sit near the isle so i can gat up and leave if i have to. Just having that option almost eliminated my anxiety.

As for the hotel room... that should be the fun part! Just ask him to take it easy.

Good luck.

[Asil]

Tell your boyfriend your fears i told mine and although he couldnt quite grasp it at first he now understands completely. My boyfriend has a phobia of frogs so i saidto him imagine being made to touch a frog and he instantly shivered and i said well thats how i feel. Ive been going thru th worst anxiety ive ever experienced and my emet has relly gotten worse to te point where i havent been able to leave the house. Im getting better no and my boyfriend has been the most supportive person thru all of this never pushing me when its been too bad but gently pushing me when he knows i can do soething. My boyfriend knows that if he were ever to feel ill he would have to tell me so i can make myself feel safe. Opening up bout my fears was the making of our relationship. He doesnt call it my phobia he says im quirky ha.

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In rereading this i see it looks bad... i mean to TAKE THE DRINKING EASY!!!

[anne865]

Lol at false advertising! Yes I agree and ur reply cheered me up. But I just think drinking from lunch time until midnight and him seeing friends he hasn't seen in a long time could be bad.

I don't want to ruin his fun - but I don't want him to puke!

I have explained to him but he doesn't really understand to be honest. He says he will have a few drinks. But I don't know if he will get drunk I'm just assuming he will. And because it will be abroad I can't go home lol.

It's kind of ruining my excitement for the whole thing. I appreciate your replies x