I can't remember the name of the user, but there is one user on here who is a nurse! Hopefully he/she will see this and can tell you about it
The thing is that emetophobia is kind of a hidden phobia despite it being the fifth most common phobia in the world. I don't know for sure but i guess things like snakes, spiders, narrow spaces and heights are the only ones more common. Therapists are used to people coming in there and saying they're afraid of heights but not so many are used to (or prepared for) treating an emetophobic. A lot of them know nothing about it. Some are willing to learn and help anyway (and can be to great help. The moderator Sage's story is a great example of that, if i remember correctly) and some are too locked in their prior knowledge that they refuse to learn anything new, and some THINK they know a lot about it and will try to treat you based on that. A good example of a therapist like that would be the one who has a first step in your exposure therapy to watch videos on youtube of people v*ing. That should be like step.. 10. Not 1 . T
he problem is that a lot of emets go to one therapist/psychologist/doctor, and they don't get the help they wanted, and they assume that they are stuck with the phobia for the rest of their life, there is no help etc which is not true! You just have to find somebody who will truly listen and understand, and help you based on that and nothing but that. A lot of emets have managed to overcome or at least drastically minimize their phobia to the point where they can live a normal life, and enjoy it. Seriously, go look for a psychologist and give it a shot! If you feel uncomfortable you can just stop going there or ask for another psychologist. It's not going to make anything worse
Oh and by the way, i can totally relate to you. I'm 19 and all my friends are out partying and having fun and i just can't do it because i'm too anxious and uncomfortable. I have such amazing friends and they always ask me to go out with them (which kind of sucks because i know that they know i really don't want to but they ask anyway because they want me to come and it sucks to turn them down!) and i have to turn them down every time because i don't want to ruin their night like asking them to go out with me so i can calm down and stuff like that.