You're definately not alone. I hear it from my husband too. My son catches SVs really easy or he's got a really weak stomach. So before he V he freaks out real bad and has little panic attacks. My husband blames it on me. He says if I didnt make such a big deal out of it then he wouldn't feel like a freak when he's sick. I know my actions have had to rub off on the kids a little. But I don't think by any means that I ruined my kids. And no matter how bad my husband makes me feel I won't accept that I ruined them. Try not to beat yourself up over it. It's not your fault at all. I'm sure you're a great mother.