I'm so sorry for all you've been through. that's horrible. As his daughter, if he is unmarried, you are entitled to all of his property. No one else gets a thing. The first thing you need to do is a get a lawyer who specializes in estates. I went through a horrible estate fight with my sister about a year ago, so if you need a shoulder to cry on, please pm me. I have really been there done that with her.

I know you probably don't want to, but consider pressing charges against your ex or at least get a restraining order. You should be able to go out to a public place and enjoy yourself without this creep showing up and beating you up. There are a lot of good men out there who will not break your bones. *hugs* The police can help you out with this creep. Please, please, please contact them and find out what can be done. You are under enough stress without worrying about running into him at the grocery store.

As for your throat, you may have had a touch of thrush. I am not a doctor so I can't say for sure. Although, unpleasant, thrush is usually harmless. If it happens again, gargle with listerine. I occassionally get thrush and listerine clears it right up.

I am so, so sorry for all you are going through. My dad died naturally at home unattended by medical professionals and it was still a bit stressful. I can't imagine how hard this must be. *hugs*