It happened to my friend (a bit graphic)

[Camanja05]

So I posted a while back about my friend who was diagnosed with Chrons disease. He had a bad flare up today and was sticking close to home. He also has emet, so this has been traumatizing for him. Since he has yet to V* with a flare up, I grabbed some movies and decided to go keep him company since he was alone and feeling anxious. Since the beginning of his diagnosis, my heart has wanted to be there for him, but my emet wants me to keep my distance. So far, I've been able to fight the phobia, and be there for him. I was really starting to calm down since the disease has yet to cause him to v*. Dead in the middle of conversation, he got a strange look on his face, grabbed the trash can, and the rest is history. I did not flee. Although I was shaky and freaked out. He kept apologizing and saying he tried to warn me, but it happened so quickly. When I got home though, I just broke down. Cried, showered twice (even though I know I can't catch it.) thinkin hat maybe it wasnt the Chrons that caused it. Maybe he had a bug. I'm terrified that this episode has killed my strength to be there for him, an that kills me. Do you guys have any advice or tips to ease my mind so I will be able to go see him again, regardless if he is feeling badly or not.

[jparsons93]

Sorry to hear about your friend, I hear that's a miserable disease.
just try to keep telling yourself you will not catch it. It also may help to put yourself in his shoes especially since he is also emet. He's probably feeling embarrassed and guilty for causing you anxiety. I hope he feels better and is able to get a handle on his flare ups!

[Grace47]

I'm sorry to hear about your friend's diagnosis. That would be very tough to live with. You stayed strong for your friend. You did not abandon him. You did fantastic. I don't know if I could have done the same.

[Camanja05]

Thanks for replying guys! I'm going back to check on him today, and I'm going to do it with a smile on my face!

[staystrongxx]

You did great, wow. I don't know if I could do that. You are so strong! All my well wishes to you and your friend.

[punchbuggy]

You did fantastic in the situation. How was your friend after being sick ? Especially considering he is emet too

[Erica1649]

Wow, yeah, Crohn's can make you feel really sick. I used to work with a girl who has that and she was sick a lot, even got blockages at sometimes which causes her to vomit. You're a good friend.

[nailbiter]

you sound like an awesome friend and gosh yes not to have fled the building is totally strong. my girlfriend came around to visit my house one day a few years ago. She had her young son with her and said he was off school coz he had thrown up. His face looked green and I was so afraid. I lied and told her I was just heading out- the need to escape from him was essential! I even drove off when they did to be authentic. You were brave.

[Camanja05]

He is much better now. I didn't have bad anxiety when I went back, but it was still there. I think when it happened, it happened so quickly that he didn't get a chance to panick. It was kinda funny because like 30 minutes later he said "did that really just happen?" We both laughed. He felt worse for doing it in front of me and apologized a hundred times. It felt good for both of us to be able to laugh about our phobia together. When he answered the door the next day, he said "wow, I thought you would be in Mexico by now and still running!" I've just been tryin not to picture it in my head, which is difficult, but one things for certain... It didn't kill us, so we must be stronger.