Afraid when OTHER people v*, but not when I v*?

[purplepanda]

So hey! I'm new here! I've actually been lurking on here for quite a while...but I finally made an account. Here's my deal; For as long as I can remember, I have been afraid when people v*. If someone in my family was sick or just randomly got sick, I would hide in my closet and freak out. If someone got sick at school, I would run out of the classroom. I would panic soooo much I'd make myself sick! Which wasn't a problem. Since I myself am not scared of getting sick. I mean, I don't like it, obviously, but I don't freak out. This I find very confusing and weird. Why am I scared of something when it can't cause me any physical pain or discomfort?? I understand you guys, being afraid of someone getting sick because you don't want to be sick....it makes sense. But I freak out only when someone else is sick! For what reason?? Please tell me I'm not the only one....lol. I thought I've been getting better, but I haven't. My fiancé suffers from bad heartburn/acid reflux so he feels sick a lot and has almost v* a few times around me. This really scares me and I feel terrible. As soon as he starts acting funny or says he's feeling he's going to be sick, I panic. Then he feels sorry for me....which isn't what I want! I'm the one who feels bad for him. So now, he doesn't really tell me if he's feeling sick...he has to suffer alone. I hate it....Anyways, I just want to know if there's anyone like me? Also, does anyone have some advice? Oh, and is it still considered "emetophobic" if I'm not scared of getting sick?
Thanks for reading!

[Cynna]

We are emets, though some disagree. Welcome. There are prev threads on the topic. We are few, but proud.

One thing that has helped me out is trying to my my root cause. Mine is being trapped. Realizing I am not trapped helps a lot.

By the way, one night after my ex fiance son puked, I freaked out so much and panic so much over it happening again, I ended up puking myself.

[ashley11]

Welcome! I do not think it is weird at all. I myself am afraid of both but more when I see or hear someone else especially my kids because I have to help them. They are both emet as well they are 9 and 6. My 9 year old is afraid of both but my 6 year old handles it so well when it is her v* but when she heard her sister she had a huge panic attack. She was shaking and crying it was worse seeing her that upset then seeing my oldest v. So I completely believe that you are emet whether you are afraid of others or just yourself v* or both. My husband will let me know if he feels s* and he will go to the bathroom in the basement and he knows I cannot be in there with him when he v*. I will check on him bring him ginger ale and things like that but that's pretty much it and if someone is sick in the house they have to use the same bathroom and stay in bed and watch tv and rest. My husband also has a really bad stomach so we have been in the hospital for it before. Good luck and welcome!!!

[Vid]

Wow, that is a rough scenario.

I am glad that your husband is supportive of you.

Welcome to the forum OP, hopefully you can learn more about your irrational fear on here