sex after sv? when?

[reevagee]

ok sooooo, I haven't slept w my poor bf since Monday and then he was v* on wed and hasn't gotten so much as a hug from me since. I am going to have to have surgery for the removal of a bunch of cancer cells very soon and I have still not been to his apt. I am going to go there on Tuesday after class and I really wana kiss him and snuggle and you know, other stuff. after surgery I will be off limits from 4-6 weeks. he was still having d* yesterday. is Tuesday safe for sex? help!

[IR23]

I think you should be careful. It seems like he is still not well, and youre having a procedure..I pray everything turns out okay!

[reevagee]

thanks. I know I'm still so afraid to be in his apt but my Tuesday it'll be almost a week since he v* at work. his cleaning lady cleaned everything and washed his sheets on Thursday and I will be bleaching the entire place as well. but as far as kissing him or sex u think he's still contagious?

[IR23]

Maybe..the bacteria and viruses linger sometimes. I would be a little concerned. I know its a tough time to decide!

[yourjedi]

According to the norovirus information on this website, it is impossible to contract it from sexual relations or saliva. Kissing is only a problem if they recently vomited. You said it's been nearly a week since he's thrown up, so I would say you're fine. If he hasn't thrown up in a week, the likelihood of you catching it from his mouth is literally nonexistent.

If it makes you feel better, have him take a shower beforehand and you can take one after.

[reevagee]

thanks. I feel like its been forever since I kissed him and with all that's going on w my health I want his comfort so bad. not to mention I feel bad for avoiding him like the plague. am I a horrible gf?

[yourjedi]

thanks. I feel like its been forever since I kissed him and with all that's going on w my health I want his comfort so bad. not to mention I feel bad for avoiding him like the plague. am I a horrible gf?

Absolutely not. For one, nobody likes to get sick, and most people do what they feel is necessary to avoid catching viruses, emetophobic or not. We just happen to fear it a little bit more, so we take more drastic measures. It isn't because you love him any less, and I'm sure he understands that. Honestly, a lot of girls on here wouldn't even think about kissing or being intimate with their boyfriend after a stomach virus for a month or more. You're being very brave and you're not letting it control you, and that's awesome! I truly believe that you have nothing to worry about as far as catching the bug. I think you're in the clear.

I'm sorry to hear that your health isn't doing well, and I sincerely hope everything straightens out and you're feeling better soon. x

[reevagee]

thanks so much! I really appreciate that. he looked at me yesterday as he was leaving my house and said, I wish u were sleeping over I don't wana sleep alone again. I wanted to cry. I feel like a witch. I'm even scared to sleep in his bed cuz he was still having d* yesterday. the day after he v* he was at my house, he was w his mother, he was at his brothers house playing with the baby and none of them for sick. he was eating gyros and Chinese food w them also. that was the day after he v* so idk. I feel like the baby would've got it right away and I shouldn't worry but I'm still being OCD crazy.

[yourjedi]

As long as he washes his hands after using the bathroom, you've nothing to fear when it comes to him still having d*. Think positively of how nice of a time you'll have with your boyfriend, not just about him being sick. I think you're handling everything well.

[reevagee]

thanks a million! I should be more worried about the cancer cells all over my cervix and the surgery and anesthesia they use, but here I am worried about this stupid phobia. I'm gonna kick cancers ass, but this has been kicking mine for YEARS! ughhhhhhh

[reevagee]

I'm still so afraid to go to his house tomorrow, I'm already having anxiety. what do I do? I don't even want to go to class tonight cuz I'm afraid I'll feel sick!

[tdunham21]

You will be okay! as long as you both wash your hands especially after he has D* you will be okay!! Remember you have to actually swallow the particles and he hasn't V* since last week! you will be okay!

[reevagee]

yea he didn't v* in his house either and I'm pretty sure the d* stopped. I'm just still totally freaking out cuz idk where he got it, no one around him was sick and anyone he was near like his baby nephew and mom didn't catch it either. I hope it's not some crazy supervirus.

[NicManri]

If he didn't v* in his house you have absolutely nothing to worry about! The cleaning lady washed the bedding and if it makes you feel better bleach the bathroom. Honestly you don't have much to worry about, just wash your hands and don't let him make you food. You will be absolutely fine

[reevagee]

thanks. I can't sleep due to panic attacks all day long from the fear and from not eating all week. I feel soooo n* I guess from barely eating since I found out I have cancer. I'm just a mess.

[AoD]

Honey, you need to eat. Especially if you have to undergo cancer treatments, you need to keep your energy up to fight this and get help your body go through this ordeal. If you don't feel like eating much because of stress, at least try to get meal replacement shakes like Ensure or Boost, you need the nutrients. I hope your treatments will go well.

[reevagee]

thanks so much for all of you supporting me through this. luckily I have a handful of amazing friends. unfortunately when it comes to my phobia they are not exactly the most understanding. I go to the oncologist on Thursday to find out my surgery date. hopefully it hasn't spread. I'm praying. thank you all again. I am feeling hungry and will def be stocking up on more ensures. xxoo