Help I’m panicing!!

[swiftette]

Myeight year old woke up and told me she has a stomach ache!She was actually afraid to tell me at firstso I know it must be bad. She says she is'nt nautious yet, went to the bathroom and was fine and then all of a sudden, she just got a pain and cramping. I told my husband-of course he kust rolls his eyes at me-God forbid HE would offertostay home today. I took her tothe Dr's yesterdayfor an allergy test and therewas noone there-we justwent stright to thelab so I don't think she could have picked up anything there.Oh God-I'm starting to loose it and it's only 7:45 a.m!I also NEEDto go food shopping and to the bank and to pick my dad up at the nursing home! My mind is racing-HELP!

[shiva]

Oh geez.. I am sorry that you are having to deal with this today. It sounds like you have a lot to get done, this is the last thing you need. How does she seem otherwise? Does she have a fever at all? Headache? Is she acting normal other than her tummy ache? Does she know the difference between her tummy hurting around her stomach? or just intestines? Maybe she just needs to go to the bathroom more? Is there anyone who can come stay with her while you get your errands done? Maybe while you are out you can pick her up something at the drug store to help her feel more comfortable.

[swiftette]

She has no fever and no headache and I asked her to point whereit hurst and she pointed just above her belly button. I ran out and got her some ginger ale. She says she is a little better. I'm gonna make her some soup-she does'nt want the toast I made her. I t makes no sense because we really havent come in close contact with anyone and no playdates lately. And noone Iknow is or has been sick like that since June!AAARRGGHH! I hate this phobia!

[shiva]

First try really hard if you can to stop trying to analyze where it came from so that you don't become afraid to let her do things. (not that you would, but I know that this is one of my biggest challenges with my 8 yr. old) Unfortunately I don't think it always takes being around someone sick to get viruses. Someone in the family could have touched something and brought it home with them and then the person who has the compromised immune system at the time unfortunately pays the price. Anyway.. didn't want to get off on that tangent, but seriously try really hard not to overanalyze where you have been or who you've all been around.


Also.. we are probably jumping the gun here to say that it is a SV. Our digestive systems are very sensitive. Stress alone can make a person feel as if they have caught something. It could be a number of things. Her system could just be a little out of whack today, or maybe she ate something that her system is having trouble digesting. But, I think assuming this early on that it is viral is setting yourself up for way too much anxiety that you do not need. It could also just be a gas bubble. Kids have a hard time explaining their physical feelings accurately. My daughter is like yours and absolutely will not tell me when she is feeling ill unless it's pretty bad because she doesn't want to worry me. (isn't that sad?) But, there have been many times where I have panicked for no reason at all over tummy aches that have just disapeared later with no trace that they were ever there.


I think it's great that you got her some ginger ale, and if she's hungry for soup I would venture to say that's probably a good sign. Just try really hard to relax the best you can and not let the what if's take over. No matter what happens you will do just fine. I am sure you are a great mom and you can handle this. There is no reason to stress yourself out more than you have to because then you may give yourself a tummy ache and be worried even more. Just try to take the day and relax if you can get out of the other things you have to get done. Let us know howshe's feeling later and hang in there. I am sure everything will be just fine.

[swiftette]

Thanks sooo much Shiva. So far so good. She ate her soup and had some ginger ale. I'm having her rest a while before I do any of my errands.

[shiva]

Swiftette,


How is your daughter feeling? Is everything going okay?

[jennyleigh1975]

I hope everything is ok and your daughter is feeling better. My 10 yr old daughter complains with her stomach hurting sometimes, and I know it isnt a sv. I think its constipation with her. I hope shes feeling better.

[bexcelica]

how s your girl doing? hope all is well

[samara's on tv]

How's everything going? I hope she's feeling better!


~Monica

[swiftette]

HI all!Yes, she was fine after that.Youknow, I thought I was making progress-the day before, we went to a resterauntwith my mom. I used to be anorexic and the only lingering problem I still have is anxiety about eatting in front of other people. As usuall, I was sitting there almost fineshed eating and my throat tightened up, I started to sweat andpanic but instead of leaving of running for an antacid, I took a deep breath and told myself"Everythingwill be ok even if Ido v* Iwill be fine" and the anxiety just stopped! I was sooo proud of myself. And then my poor daughter gets a belly ache and I nearly lose it!I feel so ashamed.

[shiva]

Don't feel at all ashamed of yourself. You should continue to congratulate yourself on the work well done the day before. It is stressful when our kids get sick, especially when we have a thousand things we have to get done. When we're stressed out it's much harder to keep the anxiety at bay. Don't give it another thought, just dust yourself off and keep moving forward knowing there will be good days and bad, but each time you are confronted with this fear and you come out okay it will help you grow and get past it.


Glad she's feeling better.

[bexcelica]

there is no reason to feel ashamed. think about the good not the bad.
you got through an almost panic attack in a restraunt. thats awesome !
dont get yourself down if one thing happens that youre not too proud
of. think of how far youve come and dont let one silly thing slow you
down with the way youre going

[troger]

i just found this website and i am freaking out! i never knew it was this bad with anyone but me! my3 year old had a 102 fever yesterday and i gave him tylenol which came right back up. thank goodness my husband understands and i ran out the door. unfortunately, it's all i can think of today and have practically od'd on vitamins to try and stay healthy. i even tried to get my son's dr. to prescribe suppositories but he didn't think i was serious!

[tcsarah]

Hi there, welcome to the group. I'm sorry your son is unwell at the momemt, I hope he's feeling better soon.


The way you reacted with your son is probably how I would have and many others here. I'm glad you've found this site, hopefully it will help you to come here and talk your worries and problems over with fellow emetophobes. There are some fab people here always willing to offer advice and support in a friendly way, it does help to share your thoughts and fears with people who know exactly how you feel. It's good you have an understanding husband, that helps too.


Try not to worry too much (I know, easier said than done!) about catching your son's illness, children are ill way more than adults, it may not even be catching. Rememeber too that childrenvomitmore often than adults, so if he does have a virus and you catch it, it would probably just affect you like a cold/flu with no sickness.


Hope you will let us know how things are!


Tracey x

[swiftette]

I'm sorry about your son. Sometimes little ones that age v* up the medicine just because they don't like it, it probably is'nt anything contagious to you and your husband.

[troger]

thanks for telling me what is true. it sucks that your mind can make you go crazy over something so normal to others... my husband IS understanding, but when i told him there was an actual name for what i had, he thought i was crazy! this has affected me since i was 6 years (i am 35 now). i really thought it was just me! i am so glad i found you guys!!